Helping DH understand how I think (autism)

[BirdsAndBlips]

Hi,
I'm on the autism spectrum.
DH is clueless, never had to deal with it really as I have been managing very well for 10 years but work has been stressful for the last 6 month and as I keep all my mental energy dealing with the kids, I have trouble hiding my anxiety and not shutting down.
How can I help him understand how I think and what makes me freak out? Any resources out there for partners of people on the spectrum?
Thanks a lot

Hi,your not going to be able to hide your anxiety from your husband forever. I'm not diagnosed on the autistic spectrum but my husband does sometimes find me cold and emotionaly unavailable as I like my own space sometimes to zone out a bit (maybe simular to shutting Down?)
Have you ever done cbt? I've done a bit for anxiety and it might be good to get your thoughts and emotions down on paper or on an app and you could show him. Your gp could refer you for cbt or there are online and book self help cbt books. Your library might be able to help, mine has adverts and resources for mental health help and specificly autism.
Good luck

Hi OP

There are great resources for partners and families of those with ASD, Facebook pages, (late diagnosis including self diagnosis), my DW has ASD, it’s been hard but better understanding of behaviour has helped immensely. There are lots of good books also (thou I haven’t read them!)

Does yr dh want to better understand?

Hi OP,

I’ve found the Musings of An Aspie blog really helpful in understanding myself (undiagnosed ASD). It’s no longer updated, but all the posts are organised by theme eg anxiety under the Essential Reading section. This article on relationships musingsofanaspie.com/aspergers-and-marriage/ has some good advice, I shared it with my DP to help us deal with our challenges which often surface more when I’m stressed at work.....The author Cynthia Kim’s book, Nerdy Shy and Socially Inappropriate is based on the blog. I read it six months ago but keep dipping back in as it resonated so strongly.

I hope that’s useful

Thanks a lot dormouse your link was very helpful. I feel like there a world of resources out there and I'm only starting to realise. Thank you