Anxiety brought on by stressful situation

[Mangopr1]

Hi all I was wondering if anyone could shed some light please.

First off I'll start by saying that I have never considered myself to be someone who suffers from anxiety. Perhaps the most I could say is I'm a mild 'worry worm' at times.

Recently me and my partner have been through 2 miscarriages in quick succession. The first was hard but the 2nd has hit me like a tonne of bricks.

I'm struggling now with what I think is anxiety. But not just about fertility or pregnancy. About everything in my life. It's like it's spilled over into every aspect possible.

I convince myself my partner is going to leave me. To the point I have literal panic attacks because I'm playing over every possible scenario in my head. When I'm thinking logically I know this is ridiculous. I mean it when I say he has done absolutely nothing to make me think this way. He is a wonderful man who has been nothing but supportive. But I find myself sometimes crying and raving like a mad woman that he's going to leave me or run off with some other woman.

It's not just this it's everything. I can have panic attacks just from over thinking about work, money etc...

I've even began with a skin issue which I think has been caused by this.

My partner thinks it's a phase because I'm stressed and dealing with the grief of the miscarriages but I'm concerned that I may need help.

I guess my question is can actual anxiety really be brought on by a tragic event if you've never suffered before and is it likely to pass or should I seek some form of counselling?

Hello. I'm so sorry to hear about your miscarriages. In answer to your question I would say yes it is definitely possible to suffer from anxiety brought on by stress. I did so myself last year when my husband questioned whether he wanted to leave, followed by a very intense period at my workplace where I didn't really get a break night or day for 3 weeks. I am still recovering from it now. But things have definitely improved. I hope yours soon eases too.

Oh and sorry i didn't answer your other question. It may well pass but if you think professional help would be useful then I think it's a good idea, definitely.

Big hugs, and yes it can. I would suggest going to the GP and getting help from them - better to stave this off now, rather than wait and see if it gets better of its own.

So sorry to hear you're having such an awful time. Stress can absolutely cause anxiety and depression. It sounds like you've been trying to cope for some time but this is your brains way of saying it's had enough. Imagine filling a plastic bag with water, you can keep adding more and more until it reaches the point where the whole thing collapses. You need to rest and find something which helps you recover. Counselling can be really useful to help you understand your feelings and exercise such as walking or running can give you some head space whilst boosting your endorphins helping to give you a mental boost. Most of all be kind to yourself and spend time with those you love.

Thank you both.

I said to my partner today's it's as if my brain thinks because something bad has already happened it HAS to go wrong in some other part of my life too and so I'm constantly on age waiting for it.

I think I will speak to someone thanks. It's important as well because I'm trying to get pregnant again and this can't be helping!!

On edge**

Cross post - thank you snowfire.

That's how it feels! I know I need to distract myself so perhaps I'll find a hobby.

I feel like I need to get all the crazy thoughts out and rant to someone impartial so they don't over run!

Hi, I’m so sorry to hear about losses. I’m pleased you’ve got the support of your partner to help you too.
I’d recommend going to the doctor and discuss with how your feeling. They may arrange for you to have counselling and medication to help you. I’ve developed anxiety and had panic attacks due to circumstance- my husband told me that he fell out of love with me when I was pregnant and doesn’t love me anymore, he’s unsure if he wants to be with me so for the last 9 months I’m stuck in limbo. All the worry and uncertainty has built up and my body’s responded with panic attacks. You need help and support at such a difficult time, please see a doctor. It won’t be as bad it seems going.