My own worst enemy

[Melman1234]

I just can't do things right. I don't say no to things I don't want and then I get upset about them. I don't say no as I don't want to cause a fuss or upset someone but then I think about things until 3am and get no sleep and repeat this until I'm exhausted. I hate confrontation and I always feel like I'm the bad guy. I can't cope with this anymore. How do people cope with anxiety and stop themselves from over thinking simple things?

Melman i have no advice I'm afraid as i suffer the same but you're not alone.

What things don't you say no to? My friend swears by mindfulness.

@exhaustedly I've started cognitive behavioural therapy. Only 1 session in though. What's mindfulness?

I don't say no to my MIL visiting all the time when really she's quite exhausting to be around. I don't say no to family events even though I find them stressful. Recently I haven't been sticking up for myself to avoid disagreements. The thought of maybe upsetting someone and having them have a go at me really stresses me. Not that I try to start arguments but some people in my life take everything to heart regardless of who it comes from and I don't think I can handle that right now. Suffered from PND and still dealing with that

Sorry to hear that. I hope the CBT helps. I don't know much about mindfulness but I think it is about focusing on the moment.