Oh dear...

[Kate8989]

Can’t remember the last time I felt happy!
Had a terrible year so far and feel suicidal most days... nobody to talk to help! X

Hey, hugs. Have you been to see your GP?

I have been to see docs about other things. I’m having an operation on Thursday as I’ve lived with constant pain since my miscarriage. I know my mood will lift once the pain has gone- but I’m struggling in the meantime. In bed everyday x

Hugs from me too, and I second the advice from Jampasty!
If you need a person to talk to in real life, the Samaritans are always available, and your GP can discuss treatment options with you.
Have you tried antidepressants or cognitive therapy before, OP?

I hate my doctors, they never listen and just fob me off all the time. I’m not eligible for counselling on the NHS because of the type of therapy I need. It’s not compatible with what CBT does. I’m scared about my operation on Thursday and what they’ll find. X

Please someone talk to me

www.mind.org.uk/
Kate8989 contact this charity, they are amazing.
I am sorry you are feeling like this. Can you talk to your family? Please talk to your GP. x

Constant pain really drags you down, I had Sciatica for several months last year.
What painkillers are you on, maybe doctor can prescribe something to get you through till your op.

I don’t have any family to talk to and my Husband isn’t here. Do you think I’m taking the easy way out not wanting to live anymore? I’m taking ibrupofoen and co-dydramol..... I know I’ve only got 4 days to wait but have been in pain for 2 months. Will I be ok during the operation? X

I've had an operation in the past - they're fine. There will be loads of people taking care of you, and although it's a big thing for you, for them it's routine and they gets lots of practise. I would take something to play music on through headphones for afterwards, in case it's noisy on the ward, or you want distraction.

Once you have the operation done, the pain should go and your mood will lift, so just count down the days and hours until then. You've come through an entire year - you can do four more days, and we're all behind you.

Also, change GPs if you can. Most doctors are good, but you've obviously been unlucky and got crap ones (been there, done that!)

Hugs and

Are you still with your husband or are you separated? Try and hold on and have your op. I'm sure you'll be fine and if it stops the physical pain I'm sure you will soon feel a little better too and be able to start doing things you enjoy and maybe a little exercise when you're recovered. Can you plan for something nice (with Dh if you're together), like a holiday? Meanwhile, take it a day at a time. When I'm struggling if I find audio books turn off the dreadful internal chatter

I'm so sorry you had a miscarriage . I just wanted to say I found my first miscarriage devastating - you're not on your own if you feel like this. You matter and your feelings matter.

Sometimes well-meaning people can make light of miscarriage, but it's ok to feel tremendously upset. I'm sure your operation will go smoothly, I understand why you're feeling unhappy and uncertain about everything. Keep talking to us x

We’re still together but he’s not here right now. I would love to book a holiday but can’t do it until my pain has been sorted out. If it’s not sorted on Thursday I don’t know how I’ll carry on.... i just want my life back.
I’m only with my Dr’s because they’re at the end of my road.. so it easy to get to. I suppose I could move as they’re shit. Is it weird I’m looking forward to and also dreading my operation x

Definitely move GPs - Mine were close by and shit, and I waited ages to move - the new one is a bus ride away and superb, wish I'd switched years ago!

Definitely not weird to be looking forward to the op!

Ok I might make the effort and move then, it’s all old men and they have no fucking clue about anything.... x

I hope your new GPs are all fab and wonderful for you!

Sorry you are feeling like this. What kind of therapy do you think you need?

God knows!!!! I need a lot of help.... I’m in such a bad place mentally and physically. Probably humanistic counselling when I’m feeling physically better. CBT won’t touch what I’m going through.... I just can’t believe how quick life can change. I went from a happy, healthy 27 year old to a pain ridden depressed 28 year old! Don’t understand life at all!!!!! X

Try a different doctors practice, the right doctor can make a difference, our practice website has details of their specialities, have a look at the ones in your area or ask receptionist.