I have a 11 month old and a 5 day old baby. A game addict dp and no help.
I didn't want another child so soon but I found out at 24 weeks after our contraceptive failed. I'll honestly say I didn't think I'd love ds as much as I do. It all sort of fell into place and I really see now how the love doubles when you didn't think it possibly could.
I've found the days after birth to get harder. I'm juggling both dcs while he games. He doesn't feel bonded to ds yet so won't do much for him as he cries constantly as soon as dp picks him up. He had the same issue with dd but he's bonded with her really well now. She's his world.
Today I just feel like I'm at breaking point. Struggling to breastfeed, my one breast feels so sore and huge and swollen and I'm in a lot of pain. My stitches are really hurting me, we're all ill but obviously dp has to be much worse than me 
. I can't remember the last time I ate so I'm living on nothing now because I don't have the time.
I'm trying to do the household jobs on my own while picking up after everyone (even after asking dp for help) incase the hv or midwife or family come over. Even just to a standard that is safe for dd.
Dp has been horrible today. He's obviously more ill than I am so he thinks he should spend a day resting and gaming. So I've done a big shop on my own with ds. Dd is trying to walk and I've been attempting to breast feed ds and he just keeps pushing dd back down by her head yelling at her as he's loosing a game of overwatch. Dd won't stop crying so I'm swapping between dd and ds and he's crying because he isn't settled/still hungry. She's crying because she wants to be held.
I'm really starting to see how hard this is.
I'm fed up of watching only benidorm because by the time I have 5 mins to myself, I'm tired as I'm doing all the night feeds because dp is ill and obviously needs sleep.
What pisses me off the most is I'll sit on the sofa and just cry now, hormones and then he tries to grovel. "you're so beautiful. Thank you for my beautiful children, you did so well" because he knows I'm pissed off.
I get I need to kick him out. But with what little help he is. I'm depending on it. Dd is too young for me to do this on my own