Partner been on Citalopram 4 weeks and seems detached .

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Just as above really .
He started about 4 weeks ago .
Was on them last year and came off them too soon possibly .
I know this is about him not me but I can't help but feeling he's sort of detached .
It's like he's saying and doing all the usual things but in slow motion . He has always been very demonstrative in a romantic way .... holding hands across the table / constantly affectionate and it's strange that he isn't at the moment .
It's nothing major I suppose in the grand scheme as long as he feels better but is like he's a different person sometimes since he's been on them . Much less stressed but I've never known him so sort of detached .
Thanks x

Sorry meant to ask is this normal or might he get more used the meds and be a bit more present in a few weeks ?

Antidepressants work by ‘levelling out’ your mood, so you can’t get really happy or really sad. It feels like you’re constantly on the same wavelength no matter what is happening around you. This can make you feel quite numb and disconnected. It usually takes around 3 months for your body to fully get used to a new lot of antidepressants, so if he is still like this after 3 months I would talk to him and ask him if he thinks it is working for him or if he needs to try another type of antidepressant. I was on citalopram before and I really hated it but fluoxetine works great for me! So give him some time to adjust as it’s a marathon not a sprint when it comes to antidepressants :) hope I’ve helped a bit xx

Glam thank you for your reply .
I feel a bit more reassured now and was trying to figure out the time scales ... think it's been about 6 weeks so really early days then .
Thanks again .

That's okay! It's a crazy world - antidepressant. But don't take the way he feels personally, this might be TMI but for me I cant even orgasm on antidepressants! Because as I said it stops your brain waves from jumping up and down so you can't feel extreme happiness or extreme sadness. Bare in mind I am on and off of fluoxetine though so I'm a bad example lol! But yes don't take it personally, his whole brain is currently being re-worked and he's going to take time to adjust to it. If you're ever concerned you could possibly see the doctor yourself and ask them about his behaviour? They might have some more sciencey ways to explain it better than I! And just research ways to support him and I'm sure you'll both be just fine xx