Hi I suffer anxiety and ibs
I grew up watching my violent alcoholic father beat my mum daily and then something happened to me bad aged 16
I married an alcoholic who was abusive and controlling I left him after 16 years then ended up with a cheating controlling man for 9 years I’ve had infertility treatment late pregnancy loss sepsis intensive care hemoraghing and a very hard life
My husband used to be a player I didn’t know until after marriage he cheated on his wife and his ex he said he didn’t live them but hey ?
He hasn’t cheated on me we work from home so he’s never gone long enough to and only has a pint with his mate 2 times a month.
As my past is very anxiety ridden it took me a while to trust him.
I had a vivid dream just before I found out my ex cheated on me with the dream showing me who the women was and a few weeks later I saw text evidence when he let me video his phone
Now last night I dreamt my husband had cheated on me with a women all I saw was a faceless person and her hair I didn’t know who she was and my best friend ??
I have never seemed he’s cheated on me
Today he had a message on his Facebook
We were watching TV and he picked his phone up and he smiled widely I asked what’s that he said oh lol it’s a women who I used to be really good friends with some years ago
It was his reaction that made it seem a bit OTT
I know I suffer anxiety and anxious people really are parinoid I know it’s probaky a harmless old friend but it was his reaction
I explained how I felt and he was grinning and made me feel uncomfortable
I know it’s atuoid but some days the anxiety is really bad and I imagine all things will happen
I do trust him but I’ve never seen him react like that about a person contacting him
He said they weee just good friends him her and 2 male mates used to hang round together but he has lied before about who he cheated on an ex with so I didn’t think he’s cheat with ex’s ??