Going into motherhood knowing you struggle with mental health?

[BellaLDN]

Does anyone here suffer from depression, anxiety, social anxiety or at times acrophobia?
I’m wanting to find out how you decided to go into motherhood knowing you suffered from these and how you’ve coped since.
Fellow sufferer.
And where some say it would greatly benefit me to have my first child for the certain problems I suffer from. And that I wouldn come into my own. I cannot get away from the worry of it. Will I cope?
I’m early 30s. And will be going into motherhood alone now I am financially able to.
Thank you x

@Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar
Please let’s not make this about that. I should have known the anti SMBC brigade would attack certain choices.
I have friends or aquantances who have fathers who reject their children. One who’s partner is in prison and wants nothing of his child he chose to have. A father friend who’s mother cleared off. No situation is ‘perfect’ or ideal. But a child having a loving parent that 100% wanted them and makes their happiness their sole priority in life is better than two insufficient parents. Nothing is the perfect scenario. We all try to do our best. I have actively chosen because the stereotypical two parents and picket fence isn’t for me. And I shouldn’t be ashamed of that.
I see this accusation of the odd poster stating ‘you remind me of a previous poster’ but unfortunately I’m not. I registered today. But thank you anyway.

@FissionChips Thank you for sharing that. I appreciate your honesty. It’s not going unheard

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I don't know what the SMBC brigade are, but you are either the same poster or you're living parallel lives.
Your insistence on a baby improving your mental health and insisting you must do it alone in case the father runs off give it away.
Please engage with real life help, and either change your therapist or listen to what they are actually saying, not what you want to hear.
Best of luck

@WunWun everyone is different. Weirdly having a dog gave me the right reason to go out. She needed exercise and I was the only one to do that. Without her I would have no reason to go out for extra walks. Strangely having friends come over to my side of town I’m the first to Suggest we go out and do something. It’s when I’m alone I am at my worst. The mind is a strange this, and how it affects us all differently

Excuse me @Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar what are you referring to - another poster ?
Please direct me to that because I’m confused.

Try being nice please. Your viewpoints are welcomed but Atleast be transparent about what your saying regarding another poster. And hear me when I say I have no idea about another poster ?!

Getting exercise is nothing like fixing on going mental health problems. I'm very surprised you don't know that if you've seen a therapist. A switch isn't just flicked.

And you will still be alone, but with a small screaming baby.

@Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar
It is a CHOICE if I am not for relationships with men anymore and I wish to use a known sperm donor where I will be sole responsibility for a child. Respect that. As I respect others life decisions.

Your something else. I suggest you also engage with life and over read multiple different peoples posts who seem to have similar life choices and say I’m them ?! Excuse me. Maybe take a breather from Mumsnet

@WunWun I’m sorry your in that predicament. That is why I’m asking these questions before I venture into big decisions

People are being really unfair, granted you may of worded your first couple of posts wrongly but OP is not saying the baby itself will just make her better but that she will make herself better for the baby.
The most important thing in recovering from mental health problems is that you want to get better. And when you are seemingly on your own with no responsabilities or purpose its very difficult to want to get better. As much as you might not like how your are feeling right now, that will be nothing compared to how much you wont want your child to feel that way.

Do you really believe that @Fission? That makes me feel really sad for both you and your baby. I hope that you can find some support.

@op I have very bad MH problems, and me and my partner are TTC. I am terrified! But I will be visiting a therapist continuously throughout pregnancy etc, I am also probably going to look into having a private midwife or doula. Please feel free to PM me at any point x

@Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar

Just leave this thread please if you persist on another subject I’ve no idea your on about

My baby is a 5 year old now rosie , but thankyou.

I found that pregnancy and having a young baby made my very mild mental health problems become moderate to severe. I love my kids but have been to hell and back having them.

Why on earth have I been deleted there?

Same as Lorelai my mild anxiety/depression became far far worse once babies were thrown into the mix. The effect of lack of sleep and tiredness was totaly debilitating. And now at nearly 7 and nearly 4, the lack of sleep has somewhat improved, although the incessant noise and just generally feeling touched out, drives me batty. I love my dc completely and they are the funniest, happy children that you could ever wish to meet. But If I knew then, what I know now, I’m not sure I would have had children.