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Help I cant deal with my husband and feel trapped

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elbowlicker · 27/02/2018 21:54

I really don’t know what to do. I want to leave my husband but have no real income. I have 4 children; one is 19 from a former relationship and about to move out. 3 children from this marriage are now at school; twins age 6 and one age 7. Life is so unbearable with my husband. How do I start this process. We live hand to mouth and rent our house so financially moving is not an option. Any ideas ? I have a first class degree in graphic design and have done some freelance work at home but not regular work at all. I drive my children to school which eats up 40 mins of my day in the morning run and the same at home time. I have given up on the idea of trying to go back to work properly as breakfast club + afterschool club for 3 children plus school holiday care would cost more than my wage. How do I get out of this? My husband works 6am-6pm mon-fri and does next to nothing at home. He is just in a rage 80% of the time. He smokes weed constantly and spends his time at home chain smoking outside. He projects all his downfalls on to me. I have no confidence left to get out of this horrible hole.

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Lilymossflower · 27/02/2018 22:38

Talk to your local YMCA. They might be able to give you pointer for organisations that can help with housing and domestic abuse. Because he emotionally abused you by always being in rage at you and projecting his downfalls on you.
There are organisations that can help with housing in domestic abuse situations, grants , etc.

It's a big leap but the right one if you are unhappy. Your children deserve a mother who is happy, and you deserve to be happy too. As for managing finances after the move, it's possible, even if you are poor for a bit. Things would change and new opportunities open up. Let go of fear and beleive in trust

Sally2791 · 27/02/2018 22:41

Definitely find a way out. For yourself and so that your children don't see this life as normal. Good luck

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