Can anyone help? Worrying is ruining my life

[Honey1975]

I have always been a worrier but it's getting worse and it's having a negative affect on my life.
Recently I worried myself sick for two weeks about something that I thought was wrong with my son and turned out to be nothing just something harmless. I was so relieved.
Now my husband has a problem and he's got to have investigations at the hospital and the dread had consumed me again.
I know things happen in life but I just can't seem to cope with anything! Last night I hardly slept imagining that my husband was going to die, and how would I cope, and what about money & then what if something happened to me & the children were left with no parents!!

I've been worrying about it all day and yet somehow I need to be a good mum & wife. I've got things to do, shopping, cooking, paying bills and a job to do but I can't think about anything other than my DH who I know is a bit worried and upset but not to the extent that I am!

It's ridiculous and draining being like this but I don't know how to change.

Please please can anyone help? Has anyone overcome this?

sorry, can’t offer much advice but just wanted to say you are not alone. i suffer from terrible health anxiety, my mind is completely focused on what ifs. distraction is the best way forward, always keep busy and do things you enjoy. see your GP for CBT.

I'm with you. I'm suffering terribly at the moment. I have had CBT didn't really work. I just can't stop worrying. I'm having panic attacks at the minute again. I'd like to have a switch where it all goes away. I envy people who have a laid back 'we'll worry when it happens' approach to life.
I think worry is literally killing me.

I am exactly the same! Going through a particularly anxious / panicky few weeks at the moment. Not sleeping and struggling at work! Have had CBT previously and learnt some good techniques which absolutely go out of the window when the panic is in full swing.
Watching this thread to see if anyone has any advice or ways to overcome.
Totally sympathise with you though, consumes my life!!!

You're definitely not alone! I worry constantly, specifically about my health and my families. Definitely talk to your GP about it, I've had some CBT which helped a little but I've just found talking to others has helped the most. It's so bloody draining isn't?! Xx

I'm another one here, in fact I am exactly the same at the moment, for me it's the kids constantly being ill I dread it especially the baby and she vomited all over during the night out of the blue so I've been on eggshells all day waiting for more. I absolutely loathe myself for getting so worked up about these things, dh doesn't understand, but when I worry I don't sleep and then when I'm over tired I am emotional wreck! I keep telling myself I need to go the doc and ask for something to take the edge off but I'm bf baby still. I have always been a big fretter though. U hate it. I'm literally wasting my life worrying. So if anyone has the answer I would love to know!

I'm currently following an NHS online cbt anxiety program and like it. It's got nice little tools including staying in the present audio clips. The technique I'm finding useful at the moment is scheduling worry time into your day. Where you write down all your worries throughout the day then find a quiet place, set a 10 minute timer where you allow yourself to reflect on them. Sort them into real worries and hypothetical what if worries. Find solutions for the real worries and try to let go of the ones you can't. I found the timer really helpful as it would go off just as I was getting worked up so I stop immediately and do something relaxing.

OP please see your GP as soon as possible

Sorry to hear other people feel the same. It's just all consuming.
I am worried to the point I feel sick about DH. I just always think the worst. I honestly don't know how I will cope if there is something really wrong with him. I should be being a support to him but instead I'm just terrified. How on earth do people cope when something is wrong with a loved one? He has an appt on Friday so may know more then. I'm just so so scared.

Same here. Some days are better than others.Yoga and meditation seems to help but wouldn't say it is a complete cure. This time of the year is worse with all the viruses going around.

I also take vitamin D which seems to improve my mood.