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worried about DH

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PahPahPah · 04/02/2018 22:32

He's been very irritable recently - snappy and lots of arguments, not communicative. Tonight we had a huge row about finances (which we really didn't need to have - we are fortunate and not in any difficulties). Later he was very upset indeed and we have had a long conversation now about how he is terrified about fascism, anti-semitism and world politics. He hasn't been sleeping for worrying. He was very knocked by the Brexit referendum and has been engaged in opposition to it, he's I think been getting too focused on it - almost completely unable to talk about anything else when we are at social events - and spending a lot of time trawling twitter, which means he reads very unpleasant views and possibly losing perspective. I totally get that he's worried, however I'm concerned he's retreating from the real world, catastrophising etc.

I think these may be signs of depression. I'm very worried about him. I've suggested he sees his GP to talk about things. He thinks I'm being ridiculous - obviously the GP can't fix Brexit or fascism... To him, me mentioning the GP is a sign I am not listening to what he's really worried about.

Are my instincts right. Does he need to see a doctor? Or am I way off the mark?

(I agree with him about Brexit and fascism by the way... I just don't spend all my time thinking about it).

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feska5 · 04/02/2018 22:40

Your DH is clearly very anxious. Not sleeping, lying awake and worrying will exacerbate how he feeels. He definitely needs to see his GP. Getting him to agree to go may prove difficult from what you have said.

VanGoghsLeftEar · 04/02/2018 22:44

My husband has anxiety and depression. It took me ten years to get him to talk to the GP before he had a breakdown and agreed to go. He hates medication as they Zone him out, and he needs to be able to concentrate for his job. He gets very anxious about muslims, and has got very attached to conspiracy theories and likes Britain First etc. Instead of blaming the elite for the problems he has, he blames the unfortunate. I hate it, and I avoid discussing politics with him. He might be a prejudiced, but is part of his problem his anxiety?? I think it is. You will not be able to help your husband until he wants to help himself, in my experience.

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