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Depression...finally admitting it

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Lottielou83 · 29/01/2018 10:43

Hi all.
I don’t want to start with a huge backstory as to why I’m even starting a thread so I’ll try and keep things brief.
I’m really struggling with everything in life at the moment and am sat writing this in my doctors surgery awaiting to seek medical help (I may have to continue writing this when I get home)
For too long I’ve always been the strong one, always coped better than most but now I’m finally admitting I’m broken.
My mum has suffered with depression for as long as I can remember so have always had it in my life, one way or another. Over the last couple of years she’s progressively got worse and just before Xmas started to self harmShock As always I was the first port of call to try and help her, I tried but I just wasn’t strong enough and it’s actually contributed to my downfall. I haven’t really ever had a ‘mother’ no one to really call on and look after me (even at the age of 35 we all need our mothers) I’ve always been the one looking after her. It’s such a sad place to be and I’ve even spoken to her about it and asked her why, asked her to just be there for me for a change (hoping that might help her focus a bit more on life) nothing I say or do makes any difference to the situation and I have to find a way to deal with it. I just can’t.
So that’s number one of a busket load of issues.
I’m so sad all the time, it’s almost like it hurts to smile.
I have 3 beautiful daughters who I need to get better for so I’ve finally admitted I’m depressed (also did an online survey which only confirmed I’m ‘severely depressed’
It’s such a dark place. Feeling like I’m being weighed down and pulled down at the same time.
I have an amazing fiancé who is so supportive which is a blessing and he’s helPing as best he can.
Dreaded going into the doctor...wish me luck 😢

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Lottielou83 · 29/01/2018 10:47

I have also suffered with an eating disorder a few years back after a marriage breakdown which with my heightened mood is starting to poke around in my head. I was offered tablets back then but refused and had counselling instead. Eurgh 😞
I have zero Patience with my daughters, I feel like a bottle of pop ready to explode at the slightest little thing. I lost the plot when my youngest spilt some yogurt the other day, then promptly burst into tears feeling a failure of a mother...another eurgh 😞

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Lottielou83 · 29/01/2018 10:49

My and my fiancé work from home so everyday is work, housework and being parents.
I have zero motivation to work, to interact, to do anything yet our income is obviously needed.
I’ve started sorting things in the house, throwing things away in an attempt to declutter...but then it makes me feel worse as I look around seeing a mountain of other things to do. I drive my self 😡

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Lottielou83 · 29/01/2018 10:51

My dad is currently awaiting an operation to determine whether a ‘very sinister’ growth he has is cancer. I’m very close to my dad so it’s hit me hard. I’m tryinh to stay positive (which he’s being) but as he’s had cancer I know the battle of what’s to come if it is bad news and I worry I won’t be strong enough to help him. (There isn’t any other family, mum and dad are separated) EURGH

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inthewoods4 · 30/01/2018 18:48

Hi Lottie, how did it go with the doctor? It sounds like you've got a lot going on, it's no surprise you've been struggling. Did they offer you any help?

AnakinCyberwalker · 30/01/2018 18:51

Congratulations on going to the doctor that is the first amazing step and I hope they giving you some help Flowers

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