not depressed but very low

[redbracelet]

can't seem to shift this shadow.

Just feel so low. Culmination of lots of things really. Its almost a year since i got my _+ve that ended in m/c, weight not coming off as quickly as i would like, sick of being hungry, am too unfit to excercise as i would like to, sick of having to justify every penny we spend. sick of being me really

I don't know why i posted really

Ow Redbracelet...sounds like you're a bit miserable and down...I've been there hun and have had 2 mc in the past as well and it can be really hard once you are in a fug to get out of it....

Have you talked through things with a counsellor as you might have unresolved grief issues that you need to deal with?

also try to make sure you've got enough B vits in your system...I find when I get down that if I take them things get a little better. and if you feel you can, talk over how you feel with your GP...there is support out there if you ask for it.

sending you some virtual ((((((((((hugs))))))))))))

no counselling. I don't talk about it out loud. Felt wrong because i had so many friends who were due around the same time that i didn't want them to feel they had to watch what they said.

Always got the DC's with me in the day so GPs is out.

ty for virtual hug though

sorry I dind't get back to you last night Redbracelet...I hope you're around today.

Try The Miscarriage Association or Parentline Plus

Please try to talk to someone about this as I know myself how much damage you can do yourself by bottling things up. Take Care

i get low like that a lot too. usually it passes pretty quiickly. have brooded on the idea of counselling being the answer for a long time... and tried it for a bit too... will prob go back one day... but regardless, i have recently discovered that activity kida helps in the immediate term. you say youre too unfit to exercise as youd like (boy, do i know that feeling) but set yourself small goals and do a little as often as you can.... document it all in a diary and watch the gradual improvement. youll find you achieve more than you give yourself credit for.
and in the immediate term, it both distracts you from dark thoughts and gets endorphins going to help battle the clouds of lethargy away.

hope you feel betteer soon, whatever you do.

To second what Nappies Galore says, swimming is a good one as you don't have to be very fit at all to make some sort of progress.....and don't worry about how you look in a cossie....once you're in the water, no-one can see you

i had a look at the miscarriage association but i didn't find it helpful at all. I will have a look at the other link though - thank you.

Also, there is no way on this earth i would be seen in a swimming costume! Its the going to and from the changing rooms and the fact that i can see myself in the costume that i hate. Hate looking at myself and seeing all the bits sticking out in all the wrong places.

Nappies, I already do keep a diary of sorts,more of a food diary really that i also record my weight in. I could also use it for excercise too. I started running recently as i entered myself into race for life. I enjoyed it the other day if i am honest so i will probably work up to doing more of that. Besides, i can hide my thighs, hips, belly and bingo wings when i am running!

I did try counseling a long time ago for other things. I was only 16 and i got the impression that the counsellor didn't believe anything i told her. Easier to keep it in now and close the door. At least that way only i know how i really feel.

You can talk to someone at the miscarriage association of you need to...but I must say I've phoned parentline in the past and found them very very helpful. they helped me to see that things weren't as hopeless as I'd thought an that there was light at the end of the tunnel.

Hope you start to feel better soon...Dxx