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I'm so sad, despite having no real problems.

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Gladrag · 21/01/2018 16:05

Please help. I am so sad, I barely sleep, I eat too much. I don't take care of my appearance, never wear makeup, brush my hair with minimal effort so it's still messy and tangled. I am seriously overweight and so tired. I really need to snap out of it but can't.

But yet I have lovely children, a DH, a roof over my head, food on the table and a stable job.

I know the problems are all mine. I'm stupid and a useless mother. I just need some time away from everyone but I can't have 5 minutes. My children constantly follow me around, even to the bathroom sometimes. I know I need to be harder on them. DH tells me I should tell them to go away lke he does but I can't because I know they need to talk to me or need me to help them.

I don't have any friends at all. I have no-one I can call up and talk to about my problems. I can't discuss anything with my family, they would just laugh at me. The closest thing I have to a friend is a nice woman I sit next to at work.

I don't go out often, if I do it's usually a work do. I went out 3 times last year because DH was kind enough to look after the children but I couldn't relax because I know when I get home I have to get the children ready for bed.

I have been diagnosed with anxiety in the past so I suspect this is behind my feelings.

I just want to get away from everything. Sometimes I fantasize about being a lesbian and the nice woman at work whisking me away, but she's happily married.

I know that all sounds a bit weird but I can't understand what's going on in my head. I know it's all my fault.

Sorry that was a bit long. I just needed to get some things off my chest. I have never discussed any of this with anyone before.

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hevonbu · 21/01/2018 16:15

I think your overweight and bad eating habits might be key to your other problems, so perhaps start by reading (thoroughly) this website with my favourite Doctor: thebloodsugardiet.com/

As for the hair, maybe go and cut it short, so you really get away with a minimal effort combing in the morning.

For the third problem - no friends - there's a no friends thread running here on mumsnet, which you could post in now and get ideas what to do about it or share your experience, in the thread or in a pm to selected mumsnetters (someone mentioned a Facebook thread on that thread so you might want to go and look it up, it was something with Chums...I don't recall it.)

Today is a good day to try to start looking at things a bit differently. Smile

hevonbu · 21/01/2018 16:16

Also, don't say anything bad about yourself, don't address yourself with demeaning self talk like "I'm a bad mother" etc.

Bluedoglead · 21/01/2018 16:16

Go to the doctor sweetheart and tell them how you’re feeling.

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