Coping strategies for suicidal thoughts

[DaisyCookie]

Long term mental health issues and its been a bad few days. Suicidal thoughts are getting bad and I feel like I have nobody to turn to. I don't want to call crisis as I feel unable to speak.

I just wondered if anyone has any good ways to try and get through this, ways to cope. My energy levels are really low, I'm home alone, all I have managed today is to make cups of tea.

Hi I'm so sorry you're feeling like this. I don't really know what to say and I hope someone will come and be able to offer you some good advice.

I don't know if there is anything like this but could you have a look to see if there is an online chat or texting service with the Samaritans or someone alike if you don't feel like actually talking? Do you want to chat about anything in particular? What is making you feel down?

Feeling like you do now won't last and you will feel better

There's no one thing making me down, I begin to think I'm just broken inside as no feeling of happiness or contentment lasts.

I'm so lonely. I have young children but I don't do a good enough job for them. I don't have any real friends anymore. Some family but I feel like a broken record speaking to them. A newish DP, I did text him but no answer...I wouldn't want to know me either.

I have no motivation, no ambition in life, I don't enjoy anything, I don't remember the last time I felt happiness instead of faking it for the sake of my kids and family.

I don't know where to start or how to feel any better anymore. The feeling of hopelessness makes suicidal thoughts worse. Just getting through each day to exist for another day, all feels pointless right now.

Hiya. I didn't want to read and run, although I have no great advice to offer I'm afraid. Have you seen your GP about this and discussed medication/reviewing your medication? As to getting through the day - you are doing exactly the right thing in making cups of tea - that's no small thing when you are feeling so down. Keep putting one foot in front of the other - you won't always feel this down

This is the most depressing month of the year, with I think 16 jan as officially the worst day of the year for MH. So you're not alone, plus you are passed the worst day, and that's official!

Do you read books? Is there a favourite book from childhood you could reread? That always cheers me up.

Or download a Calm on you phone, it's a calming app. (And use it, don't just download it).

Recommend you go back to docs too.

It's so sorry you're feeling like this. It's bloody awful.

Hi DaisyCookie, we're really sorry to hear you're feeling so low.

We just wanted to post a link to our Mental Health webguide - which lists a number of organisations which can offer you support. Here too is a link to the Samaritans website, or you can email them on [email protected].

Our webguide also contains links to other forums, including the Mental Health Forum where people who are going through similar experiences can talk and support each other, as well as discussing recovery, housing, money, friendships and relationships.

Mind and the Depression Alliance also host an online community, Friends in Need - for people to talk openly about depression and wellbeing and create online and offline groups with people who share interests and hobbies near them.

We hope that some of these links will be able to provide the additional support you need right now. Support from Mumsnetters is great and we really hope you will be able to take some comfort from your fellow posters, but as other MNers will tell you, it's really a good idea to seek real life help and support as well.

We really hope you're okay.

daisycookie I hope you're feeling a bit better today. Let us know you're ok when you can.

Morning, I feel much better this morning, well, still not good at all really but the suicidal feelings have lifted thankfully.

It is a small thing but just having replies to my post helps, just to feel not entirely alone.

I'm going to call the mental health team on Monday.

The thing I find so hard is that I feel like I'm not in control at all, can be fine in the morning then suicidal by the afternoon. The rapid shifts in feeling and mood seem to have no reason to them, it's exhausting.

Morning daisycookie, I'm glad today is better than yesterday. Well done for making a plan for Monday, just take everything in baby steps. Try and distract yourself until Monday. The online links posted above might be good until Monday and you don't need to talk just email or text them.
Keep posting on here for support, try reading some of the funny threads in classics, that always cheers me up

Have you got anything planned for today?

When I was at a low point I made a list of all the good things in my life, anything that made me happy. I stuck it on my fridge to remind myself of the good things when I feel everything is shit. Could you try something like that?

I'm still sitting on the sofa drinking tea, same as when i got up.

Starting to think that I can't cope with the pets we have, it's not fair on them and feels like another responsibility that I can't cope with. Makes me feel like a heartless person.

After so much pain yesterday, I feel so empty today. Kids are with very helpful and kind family, they are happy to have them again tonight...this makes me feel so guilty, I should be able to be a good parent.

I feel so emotionless that the things that are, in theory, good in my life make me feel nothing. Thinking of all these things makes me feel guilty at the moment because there are positive things but it just doesn't have an impact on the crippling emptyness just now.

Hi OP, I'm glad the worst has passed, it sounds horrific.

If it happens again - this CBT site has some ideas for how to manage it: Dealing with suicidal thoughts

for you

I think it's good that you want to shield your children right now. You need time to rest and recuperate. Take the time you need. It's like mending a broken bone, give it time. This is just an illness it's not who you are.
Lots of tea and resting sound like a brilliant idea. Try and get some fresh air if you can it will do you some good

Hiya. How are you doing? Don't feel bad about still drinking tea on the sofa - it's all I've done today and I don't have the excuse of feeling down. Don't feel guilty about feeling emotionless either - that's exactly what depression does - it sucks the joy out of things. Good plan to call the MH team on Monday - I hope they can be helpful. In the meantime, hugs and more tea, from one tea-drinking sofa-sitter to another

Things have improved more, I'm feeling far less numb, more like the 'real me'. Spoke to close family member on the phone, that really helped...some people just seem to be able to say the right things, I will try to call her if I feel low again as it was a great help. I find talking to the wrong person can make things so much worse.

Thinking about eating dinner, not had anything substantial since Wednesday night.

Glad to hear you are doing better! Definitely get yourself dinner

Hi daisy
I haven’t logged in here in a long time , just read but just wanted to say hello . I woke this morning feeling so low and isolated too . Lay in bed and had a cry . I read some stuff on line then about finding a purpose in life can help with happiness . I think that’s my problem I feel I have no real purpose anymore . I was lucky enough today to meet a friend and walked for 2 hours and had bowl of soup after . The fresh air helped me and I will try go tomorrow albeit alone .
Baby steps as someone else said. And definitely a nutritious meal . Sitting watching the voice now and drinking tea. Hope you feel better soon .

It's been a bad day and it got worse, I don't know if its real or all in my head. I'm feeling suicidal, don't know if I should phone the crisis team. I don't know if they can really help.
Just feel nowhere to turn to in rl.

Here with a hand-hold, Daisy.
Yes to giving the crisis team a call. Even if you just say, ‘I can’t talk.’ and let them talk to you.
And would it be possible to call your nice relative, perhaps in the morning?
Can you manage to have something to eat? Crisps or banana and yoghurt are what I rely on when I really don’t want to eat. Just to give you a bit of energy.
‘Feelings are real, but they are not reality.’ Can’t remember where I read that, but I find it helpful.
Sending You are not alone.

Thank you Auntyelle.... managed to eat some chocolate last night and drink tea, that helped a little.

Things always seem a bit better in the morning, in the daylight. I often wonder how my health would improve if I lived somewhere with more daylight all year, winter is always been more difficult.

Going to phone my cpn this morning in the hopes of some help. I'm not feeling suicidal like last night but very much aware that I'm in a fragile kind of state still.

Glad to hear things feel a bit more manageable this morning.
Have you had your vitamin D levels tested? And may be try a light box? Either of those might help a little.