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Handhold and advice really needed please

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Mamabooksbabynumber2 · 31/12/2017 10:51

Hi,

Changed name so as to not be outed.
I have complex ptsd (depression and anxiety as a reuslt) from childhood trauma involving dad. I've had EMDR and CBT and alot better but still get triggered.

My mum is very very good friends with dad's ex wife and I don't wabt to see any of them because it reminds me of my childhood and because they always talk abour my dad.

I have had messages from half sibling which I have ignores beca8se I can't co0e with interactions and it sets off my mental health.

Fast for2ard to Xmas and my ex step mum has bought my ds and me a Xmas present. I have had no contact with them for a year and a half and barely saw them before that. But as my mum is always seeing them I just can't shake them off.

Ds opened present and the reminder of this other part of my life that I have tried to move on from and forget has set me off feeling pretty wretched.

My mum does not listen to me at all about wanting nc with my dad's previous family. Even though I've told her how I feel. She just doesn't get it.

I feel obliged now to send a thabk you text because that is the polite thing to do but that will open up dialogue and all I want to do is runaway and live my life here in the present.

OP posts:
Mamabooksbabynumber2 · 31/12/2017 10:53

Sorry sent before i finished
Does anyone have any advice as to how I can maintain distance in all this?

OP posts:
Ryebreadandwine · 31/12/2017 11:27

Please don’t feel obliged to do anything you don’t want to do. I would accept the gift then ignore. If you really want nothing to do with them, then if it were me, I would send a note saying thank you but be very clear you want nothing in future including contact. It’s perfectly acceptable to be blunt and clear in these circumstances,

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