Mh destroying my relationship

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I suffer with mh and have been with a guy 7 months. I'm struggling to accept that he is not like my ex husband who strangled me after a night out. My new fella has just started going out on nights out and I'm really struggling and text him all the time to check he isn't drunk ect. He has gone back to his mum's this weekend for a little space as he said he loves me but isn't happy with OR without me. My head is a mess with this and I'm feeling that if he ends it that I may do something very silly. How can I not let my mh destroy my relationship with this amazing guy?

Hi there ,
I struggle with relationships also, they are a whole area of triggers for me. Very little to go on here...perhaps with him going away can you concentrate on yourself, do things you enjoy, wrap yourself in a duvet, see friends. It’s a very painful path to place all worth and happiness on one person. I have bpd and suffering with limerence just now, so I know how awful that desperate feeling can be. Your bf needs to be happy, just as you do...he can go out with his friends just as you can, you both have worth and both have something to bring to the table. You must remember, although those silly thoughts can seem like a safe place ... but NOTHING is worth it, people love you

He is going to tell me on Monday if there is a future for us. He is working nye so we would have been spending that apart anyway but how can he not be happy with OR without me it makes no sence

I think there’s probably a reason you’re feeling so anxious around your relationship? And it seems a pretty brutal thing for him to say, so he seems he has some doubts. Worst case scenario, the relationship isn’t for him, or you...life doesn’t end, a very well known literate whose name escapes me says the only certainty in life can be summed up In three words: life goes on. You’ll be in the same situation as you were 7 months ago...you can go and do things you enjoy, go to an evening class, meet new people...try and step back a bit