Crying too much

[swedishmum]

Hi
I seem to have lost the plot a bit recently, feeling far too sorry for myself.
Dh works away, leaving me with 4 children and the dog during the week. As we live in the middle of nowhere I feel like I spend all my time driving children around. I guess I feel out of control - still one pre-schooler and no babysitters so can never organise anything in the week for me. Weekends are a nightmare with tired dh who is not used to family life. Can see myself existing (not living) like this till I die and wondering why. Most of the time I hate my life. Bored (**less) or depressed? Please discuss...

I'm going to bed in a minute, but wanted to say something before I go.

Sorry you are at such a low, it is late and tiredness can make everything so much worse. Please get some rest and maybe speak to your GP in the morning, make an appointment.
ADs maybe? Don't consider taking AD's as being a failure, but a step to feeling better about everything.

See you in the morning?

Thanks for replying. Just feeling sorry for myself maybe. You're right about the tiredness - 3yo dd unwell at the moment and not helping. Seems to wake about 5am. Grr.

Sorry to hear you're feeling so low.
You sound like you've got a lot on your plate. Do you mean running your children around to school or clubs and friends etc?
You definitely need to make more time for yourself during the day. Do something for yourself when your smallest is at preschool like go swimming/gym/shopping etc. Don't do the housework - that can always be done when the kids are in bed and DH is away. Could you ask around locally if there's someone (mother's help) or similar who could look after your smallest for a day a week whilst you go and do something, even if it's not every week but now and again.
It must be hard with your DH being so tired at the weekend too.
Do you have a close friend nearby to catch up with?

Well get to bed and off mn, else you will only get a few hours.

Goodnight x

remember this is just a part in your life - will be over sooner than you think. Your life will be your own again but preschoolers do dominate. Please take care of yourself and as wotz says a trip to the doc may help ut please don't think this is the rest of your life. It really is not.

I have had a lot go on for me. I understand and wish you the best.

I think most of the time I realise life will move on. I feel I've compromised so much for dh to go to work (I know he doesn't go for fun by the way!). One of the sessions dd3 is at pre-school I work, another I plan work. We just don't have a regular life I suppose. I just need to do some stuff for myself I think. You see I know what I need to do, just find it hard to organise!