tierd am i depressed

[jaynel]

i am so tierd all the time, even when i wake up in the mornings. i go to bed at 10pm and wake up at 730 but i have to drag myself up, i dont do a lot, take my daughter to school come home and do house work, or i go into town, or go to toddler group with my son, i work 21 hrs over the weekend and i feel down a lot of the time. am i depressed any suggestions?

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Do you feel tearful, anxious, negative? Tiredness causes havoc with your hormones.

could you be getting too much sleep?just a thought as i feel awful when i sleep too long,if i have more than 6 -8 hours.i suffer from depression and sleeping too long makes it worse.

i think you should go and see your gp though,you need to rule out physical problems like thyroid,anemia(sp?) etc.

Oh, sweetheart, you probably are. But if you're asking the question then it's good news. You're experiencing reactive depression rather than the deeper, more invidious kind. It is tiring having children, and life can seem a grind. I often ask myself whether I am, but I'm not really. Just cheesed off ... like most people.

Working so hard at the weekend must cast a shadow over your week. What do you do?

I often find at times like these (and what you describe is almost symptomatic of the teenage years) that you need to adjust your mindset. You've two lovely children, I'm sure, and you're doing your level best for them. How could your life be better? Write it down. Think about it. You're the only one who can change the way you feel.

Describe how you feel down, if you can.

yes powder28 i do 1 min im happy and laughing the next i want to cry, i feel im a bad mum and i feel like life is crap. i should be happy as im going on holiday next week. im worried the dr will give me anti-depressants

ive tried talking to dh about it but he just thinks im silly and i should be happy. im a co-ordinator for a care agency,im the emergency line and i work on my own, completely, i have no-one to talk to until the 2 hr helper comes in

Jay, the job you do (and it's worthy I know) is probably not helping your current mood. I'm not suggesting for one moment that you change it because life isn't that easy, but try to take each day as it comes and look it straight in the eye. Life is what we think it is and it will respond according to our thoughts.

I don't mean to sound Californian about this, but sometimes, in these circumstances, a self-help book can help. There are thousands of them out there, so just pick one out that you like the look of and give it a go for a week or so.

And you DO do a lot. You're raising two children. That's the hardest job I've ever known.

How about changing your job?

i want to change my job, but i cant find one and because i work weekends i get a good pay, i would have to work more hrs to get the money i get. my dh wants me to leave my job but its not that easy at the mo

Can you afford to leave your job right now? Does your dh want you to get another job or just stop working altogether?

i cant afford to leave, he wants me to work part time during the week, h said he will work more to make up what we need, but there is nothing around at the mo

is there a reason why you dont want ad's?tbh though,you sound totally exhausted to me.

have you suffered from depression before?how old are your children?i was suffering from PND but didnt get diagnosed till my dd1 was 19 months old.

my dd is 8, my ds is 22 months and i have a 9 year old sd who we have every weekend.

Jaynel, just keep looking at the jobs papers and jobcentreplus online is really good. Being in a job you don't want to be doing can be soul destroying, but you know eventually something else will come along. Circumstances have a habit of changing when you least expect it.

i hope so, thank u x