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Do people think this could be anxiety?

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chocsandtwirls · 27/12/2017 21:40

So i've been with a guy for 4 months now. We have had an amazing time so far and we have had fun. We would always make jokes out of things and he would seem caring, kind, warm, loving, accepting that i have a DS too. Last week however things took a turn and he changed completely.

I first noticed a difference the night after his night out. He rang me to tell me he had dropped his phone during the afternoon and he was really annoyed about it.
The next day he said he felt weird and fed up with some small things. Said he wasn't getting as much sleep as he would like too. I was suppose to be seeing him the next day but i received a text that afternoon saying his mum had now informed him that has grandad had arranged a meal that he had to attend. I was obviously a bit sad but told him its fine go spend time with your family. He text me most of that night and said he was really gutted he didn't see me and felt he let me down. Again said he was getting fed up of some small things. I asked if that was me and he said no def not. That he was so sorry he had been bad with me recently and he would make it up to me.

The next day i asked if he was ok and he said he was slightly ok, was putting on nice clothes to cheer himself up. Seemed distant and not as chatty. So this is when i started worrying abit. I said to him if we weren't on the same page maybe we should leave things. He said what was i on about, now he didn't know how i felt. I explained i wanted to continue as we were the previous week. He agreed and said the same.

We were arranging to see each other in a few days and he again seemed distant. By this point my guard had flew up and i text him the next day to say lets just be friends. He replied ok any reason? I said i can tell when someone isn't interest, he replied i've just had an off week. Then he blocked me on everything. I cannot contact him to get an explanation.

I've been really upset because i really did like him. From the sounds of things hes said to me his mum sounds controlling. He does not cope very well with rejections because he ran away to another country when him and his ex finished a few years ago. I had a quick nose of his ex gf profile and it said something about if your ex has anxiety dont freak out and stick by them.

So from what i've said would be say this sounds like anxiety? Being fine 1 min but so different and down/sad the next?

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AfunaMbatata · 27/12/2017 21:44

Does it matter if it is? You’re only 4 months in and he’s a lot of hard work already!
Honestly, don’t waste time on him, he’ll just sap your energy .

chocsandtwirls · 27/12/2017 21:52

It's hard to not think about because we got on so well. I really liked him. I will have to see him again though as we work in the same room

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AfunaMbatata · 27/12/2017 22:01

No reason you can’t still be friends with him, but please don’t try to be his “saviour”. He needs to work out his own shit.

chocsandtwirls · 27/12/2017 22:05

My last words before he blocked me were can things be ok between us id really like to be friends. And I would because we did get on so well on a friend level before anything romantic happened. I just miss him and feel sad if he's going through stuff. But yes I can't be his saviour, only he can sort his stuff out

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JamPasty · 28/12/2017 11:55

It could be anxiety, but equally he could be a flakey arse. I would be friendly when you next meet, but I would stay well away from anything romantic with him - 4 months in is way way too soon to have having this sort of hassle in a relationship!

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