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Think I am depressed but no help from GP

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olddogsnewtricks · 16/12/2017 16:24

For a long time now (years and years in fact) I have had periods of feeling really down. I generally manage to drag myself to work but everything else suffers, I spend a lot of time in bed, can't be bothered to do my hair properly, or cook, or engage with other people, in fact I get a bit paranoid about seeing other people at all. Everything seems hopeless. I have been to the GP several times but when he sees me, he just sees that I am functioning as I managed to make it to the appointment (!) - despite the fact that I often don't make it to other appointments/social engagements at all. He says that he doesn't believe in prescribing antidepressants for people like me who aren't suicidal. I am NOT suicidal but life just seems grey to me and that is affecting everything else from my career to my relationship to my children.He says exercising will help - and he is right but when I am in the slough of despond I can't even get out of bed let alone exercise! I can't accept that my life will always be like this and feel I am ruining my family's life too. Any tips on getting out of this gratefully received, this recent bout seems to be going on and on....

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LittleCandle · 16/12/2017 16:43

You need to see another GP. This one doesn't appear to be listening to you at all. Is there another GP in the practice you can see? If not, you might have to change to a different practice.

olddogsnewtricks · 16/12/2017 16:51

Thanks. Unfortunately I can't change as there are no other GPs with available slots. (I live abroad).

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laurzj82 · 16/12/2017 16:56

Sorry that you are feeling that way. I am no clinician but I have suffered from depression and your symptoms sound familiar.

Have you thought about cognitive behavioural therapy? If you cannot find a therapist where you are, this book is very helpful imo.

www.amazon.co.uk/Overcoming-Depression-3rd-behavioural-techniques-ebook/dp/B002S0KBP4/ref=sr_1_2?keywords=overcoming+depression+paul+gilbert&tag=mumsnetforum-21&ie=UTF8&qid=1513443224&sr=8-2

Best of luck

hevonbu · 20/12/2017 14:30

Maybe you could make an effort to change one little thing for the better; since you now have stopped doing so many things there is so little upside left. Pick one thing that you think would be doable and that theoretically be fun (even though you might not feel it now, when depressed). I don't know what it could be, only you know, if it's reading books, visiting the golf course, going for long walks by the sea, listening to country music, taking photos and share them on a blog, calling your friends back home (or writing). Just add one thing that'll make a slight difference and see if you notice a change after a while.

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