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How to stop spiralling negative thoughts

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tinydancer88 · 18/11/2017 08:47

Been very recently diagnosed with anxiety after over a year of struggling with life in general! GP did not want to start off with medication and I am awaiting my first counselling session in the next fortnight, which I cannot wait for as I really hope it will help. I have always been a bit of a worrier but now it rules my life.

The most troubling symptom I am having is obsessive, irrational worrying. I jump to the worst possible conclusion based on very little, and the panic feels so real it can take hours or even days for me to calm myself enough to rationally examine the scenario and realise there is no evidence or logic to underpin that fear. It all feels very real to me. When I talk about it to other people, they are kind but I can see that it sounds utterly insane to them. I cannot rationalise my worries and I feel as if disaster is inevitable a lot of the time.

At the moment my worries are based on losing my job; although if work is going well I will find something else to focus on like driving, my health, whether my home will be broken into etc. I think at the heart of it I feel like I am a bad and useless person, and this will be uncovered and I will be humiliated and lose my job, my independence and my friends.

I can cope with the physical manifestations of anxiety, I can cope with the bad sleep and the fatigue and the poor self esteem, but this end-of-the-world feeling terrifies me and I am worried it will get worse and I won't be able to cope.

If anybody has any gems of wisdom on how to ease this totally irrational, obsessive worrying I would be so appreciative! I know it's a long term thing I will need to work at but I feel like I really can't lose another weekend to feeling so powerless :(

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LordSugarWillSeeYouNow · 18/11/2017 08:57

Op I hear you.

I was diagnosed with anxiety in 2014 and last November was diagnosed with OCD.
I also have fibromyalgia so am on tons of medication.

The cycle you describe is what I went through. I was almost as if I would "find" something to worry about.

Mine got that bad that I had to begin medication for the physical symptoms too.

All I can say is try and find your trigger.
Mine is when I'm skint usually, I worry about everything. My worries are often very irrational.

Other times there is no trigger and it just comes on me like a ton of bricks. That's the hard one, there is nothing particularly wrong in my life at the time and all I have on me is this all encompassing feeling of impending doom.

Your therapy will massively help, there are so many strategies to help. Keep talking, I'm here Flowers

tinydancer88 · 18/11/2017 10:00

I'm sorry to hear you've got so much on your plate but it is nice to hear from somebody who understands.

I genuinely worry about my sanity, as I feel sometimes I start to lose grip of what has actually happened, what is likely to happen and what is simply paranoia - I guess I can't separate the really unlikely 'what ifs' from real life at times.

All of this started over a year ago and I felt the root cause then was my job - I changed jobs and the anxiety has continued to worsen. In the summer I moved into my own flat and although I love having my own space and freedom, I think removing the distraction of living with 4 other people has caused my worrying to escalate. I know I'm lucky to be given a counselling appointment less than a month after the initial GP appointment as a lot of people with far more challenges wait longer, but it can't come quick enough!

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