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Struggling to Cope

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PommyMum21 · 17/11/2017 02:39

Hi everyone, this is my first post ever. I have 2 children ds7 and dd5 who were both born in Australia. My dp was emotionally abusive and for the whole time I had children in Australia I was extremely homesick. After begging for years to move home to UK I finally plucked up the courage to come home without dp for 12 months (he refused to come and even hid our passports before we came), put children in school and finish post masters study.

I am loving being home, being able to visit family, enjoying the food and the countryside.

However, my children are really struggling. Ds is being bullied, ds has separation anxiety (from dp) and wants to go back to Aus. She cries at school all day.

I am devastated that I finally don't have to deal with abuse every day and can be close to my family but now my kids are struggling emotionally and struggle to cope which I need to do to support them.

I always maintained I would go straight back to Aus if kids were not coping, but this would mean without finishing study and with 10 months of a 12 month lease still to pay.

I don't want to damage my children's emotional well being by me being happy.

Please help Xx

OP posts:
hevonbu · 17/11/2017 04:18

Maybe to see someone professionally about (with) your children?

TanteRose · 17/11/2017 05:05

so you've only been back 2 months? and they are only 7 and 5?

you really need to give a bit more time - but also, as PP said, seek some professional help from school or GP.

I imagine it will take at least 6 months or even a year or two to adjust Flowers

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