For a long time I've taken an interest in DH's best friend's daughter, as we have a lot in common both personality-wise and in terms of interests - she reminds me of myself at that age in some ways. For about 5 years now she's had severe self-worth issues, and she herself reckons she was clinically depressed for a couple of years, during which she was suicidal. The family had therapy about 3 years ago but she refused to talk to the therapist.
I've never had the chance to get really close to her till now - a while ago I made it clear to her and her parents that I was here for her, and would love to chat to her about the things we're both passionate about, her future, etc., and yesterday her dad took me up on my offer and brought her round for the evening.
We talked till 2am, first about our interests, careers etc, and then (when DH and her dad came back) about her confidence problems and suicidal thoughts. It all got quite emotional and I had another chat with her on her own before they left.
I intend to keep in touch with her as much possible without being pushy, and to take the opportunity to share our interests together in the hope that this will keep the channels of communication open. We also talked last night about the possibility of trying professional help again - no idea if she'll go for this or not.
Anyway just wanted to discuss this really, as it feels like quite a responsible position I've put myself in, and if she chooses not to seek professional help then I could potentially end up as a kind of substitute counsellor. I've helped my brother through mental illness and suicidal tendencies in the past but am far from qualified to deal with such a delicate situation and don't want to get out of my depth.
So - thoughts, advice, support and back-up welcome.