In floods of tears

[Farontothemaddingcrowd]

A friend I've had a few years has just dumped me. She sent me a long text saying that I was self centred. I'm absolutely devastated. I have depression and have recently been through a rough time. I became a bit quiet and introverted and so she said I wasn't interested enough in her. She also said that other people thought the same and that's why they didn't want to talk to me. I am so hurt.

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That sounds really hard op. People are fragile in many ways and often let one another down I think, for a variety of reasons. It's tough going.

Yes I guess so. It's just I've been let down so many times.

I agree, I think it would have been only fair to give you a chance to explain.

I don't really know what to do now. She obviously meant a lot to me

Perhaps you could write to her and tell her how you are feeling?

The thing is, my feelings aren't her responsibility and she's made it abundantly clear that she doesn't care how I'm feeling. I'm sure she has her own things to deal with and the friendship has become a drain for her.

Perhaps you could mull this over for a few days and make a decision about how to proceed when the immediate hurt has lessened a bit? Do you have access to outside support too? (Counselling/ go or some such?)

Gp not go!

The friendship is absolutely over. I trusted her enough to confide in her about self harm and she does this

She's hurt that you forgot her birthday. You're hurt that she doesn't understand why you forgot. I don't think either of you are in the wrong here.

We weren't friends who really celebrated birthdays or saw each other all the time. She hadn't mentioned it was her birthday. I knew it was September sometime bit didn't know the exact date.

Fair enough op. I'm sorry you feel so betrayed.

I'm sorry but I am going to have to be mean now too and say goodnight as I have an early hospital appt tomorrow. I genuinely hope things get better for you though. I also hope you are able to seek rl support. Take care.

She works in a profession where she absolutely does understand depression.

Goodnight handy, I hope you have a good day tomorrow and the hospital appointment goes well.

Thank you Far! I hope you have a better day tomorrow too!

Really can't sleep. I really wish she'd just let it be for a bit. My head is sore

Feel awful still.

Just bumping

Sorry you are still feeling so upset Far. I'm off to hospital appt so apologies for rushed post. I hope you have some RL support. Take care.

Thanks handy. One of my friends with depression said that this has happened to him. Sadly I think it's not uncommon.

Hi there OP,

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Thank you. I don't need the Samaritans and as you can see, RL support hasn't got me anywhere! Feel a bit brighter now.

Is anyone around this evening?

I'm here Faron but only briefly as I need my bed soon!

I am glad to hear you are feeling a bit brighter about things. How did your day go?

I’m here for a little bit