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just dont know what to do now

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gingernutlover · 13/04/2007 08:16

I had pnd when dd was born she is now 19 m but not sure i am cured iykwim - i am off the AD's and glad about that but I am finding it really really hard to cope with life right now. I have been ill constantly since christmas, throwing up and diarrea every day which the doc first said was withdrawal then said was IBS then said was a bug. I am going back today to demand that somthing is done as it is ruining my life at the moment. DD is sweet and gorgeous but very demanding - especially compared to othe children of her age, although I am sure she's perfectly normal iykwim, maybe picking up on me being so ill and so down all the time. Dh is not sympatheic about me being ill and is just totally fed up with me - he just tells me to go to the docs and get myself sorted.

I do wonder if some of the illness is down to stress, dh is not supportive in some way (he does help out a bit with dd if I ask) but he is very negative towards me and this seems to have ecsalated since dd was born, he yelled at me the other day while i was bathing dd - "you've put a bloody great big scratch in the car have you!" then told me off for shouting back to him (he was in the other room) in front of dd, it turns out it was a join in the body work ie meant to be there and the light was bouncing off of it. When I asked him to apologise he looked at me lioke I had 6 heads and grudgingly said "well I'm sorry you were uypset" and the other day dd was ion trouble at nursery - one the staff dropped a biro and dd drew all over herself and then other children before they noticed and had a big paddy when it was taken away - they only told me cos they thought she may have bruised herself during the paddy. Whgen I related this to dh thinking it was quite amusing actually, he retorted with saying it was my fault anyway because I let her use felt pens at hokme which he disagrees which - and if i didnt let her do that she wouldn't know what to do with a pen

I mean, who the fu88 does he think he is talking to - I feel like his servant and def not like his wife

I have texted him this morning to say that I need his support not criticism but I am sure that will be wrong too.

OP posts:
gingernutlover · 13/04/2007 08:17

sorry this sounds like it should be in the unreasonable section lol - just feel so angry and down inside

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hippipotami · 13/04/2007 08:56

Oh you poor thing...
Could the V&D be down to nerves? I.e. a physical manifestation of psychological unhappiness??

Re your dh - is his behaviour a relatively new thing? Could it be that he is depressed or down too?? Is he under extreme pressure at work? If he is depressed too, then he would probably take it out on you seeing as you are his nearest and dearest.

The best thing I think is to sit and chat with him. Don't brush anything under the carpet, ask him how he is feeling, why he is so angry with you, and try to find out how to move on from here.

In the meantime, get back to the docs to get to the bottom of your V&D.

Good luck,

xx

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