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husband hindering treatment

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ColouredCube · 06/04/2007 00:12

am a regular, you might recognise me but please don't say anything.

am typing fast as H is going to come to PC soon.

H is really hindering my treatment - aiding the cancellation of many GP visits, home visits from social services (due to him leaving alot) and cancelling home visits from my mental health nurse. i have given him a questionaire to post a month ago for anxiety treatment - never posted and lost. He knows I cannot get it together alone, but wont help me. He said the ADs weren't working, and i should come off them or change them. He was just about to leave me when I had to get a prescription, and he wouldn't get it, or take me to get it. I cannot get it myself. He says it is not his responsibility, and is actually standing more and more in the way of my treatment. How can I get my medication? I cannot get to GP, cannot phone anyone, maybe crisis team, thats it. He is in background alot so I say everything is fine when people call from the mental health team. I have been off medication for over a week now and I can feel I am getting alot worse, but he will not help me.

sorry for weird typing, just really rushing to get this down

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Aloha · 06/04/2007 00:15

Wow, he sounds scary. Is he always this controlling and strange? Call the crisis team and explain. Do you have any family or friends you can confide in?

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ColouredCube · 06/04/2007 00:17

one friend, but she knows this really. she is on holiday though right now. he is not OTT controlling, think subconciously he is. It is more he will not help me rather than stopping me. but he knows I cannot do this on my own, i am that run down by it

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Aloha · 06/04/2007 00:18

Why can't you get to the doctor? Why is he doing this? It IS very controlling, you know.

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ColouredCube · 06/04/2007 00:23

dont drive - long walk. Find it hard to go out alone, was getting heaps better on ADs, now they have worn off I am at my most panicy (sp?) and anxious and depressed again. I am a prisioner (sp??) to it now. no idea why he is doing this, thought it was because he does not see depression as an illness, just a state of being, but, he said (with regards to not taking me to get the prescription when he was leaving me) he would not have taken ne, or collected himself even if it was cancer treatement.

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anorak · 06/04/2007 00:31

Hello coloured cube, I am only here briefly have been out for the night and must go to bed.

Listen to aloha, your man is seriously controlling everything.

Please, if I only say one thing it will be this...decide your own future. If you need treatment, accept it - without the approval of your controlling husband. Control your own life...please!

He is only going to say okay to anything about which he has control. Think about it...

mummytosteven · 06/04/2007 20:27

Agree with Aloha. Does he never go out? Just thinking that you really need to 1)phone Women's Aid - this is seriously abnormal and controlling behaviour and 2)let the health professionals know what is going on with your H and appointments and not being able to access your prescriptions.

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ColouredCube · 06/04/2007 20:32

I cannot go out without him. I find it very hard - impossible. He knows that.

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raspberryberet · 06/04/2007 20:32

This really is controlling. He seems to be wanting to keep you ill and frightened, and that's really worrying. Whether you can see it or not, he is actively preventing you from getting better - and probably because you are easier to control this way.

I agree that you need to make the GP and the mental health team aware of what he's doing - ask them not to cancel any visits unless it's you who requests it.

Also be aware that you can have prescriptions delivered to your door - Boots do this. You fill the form in online and then post them a copy of the prescription form.

Whatever you do, please talk to your mental health team. If they are aware of the problem they can do something to make sure you get your treatment.

singingmum · 06/04/2007 20:36

for goodness sake if you are alone at a time that you can call doc do so and tell her/him what has been happening.

foxinsocks · 06/04/2007 20:37

crikey, that's disgraceful and it is some of the most controlling behaviour I've ever heard of! How dare he treat you this way.

I agree - try and fill the script online at Boots (it doesn't apply to every medication but it's worth a try). Here's the link or call your pharmacy and speak to the pharmacist.

So you are off the ADs because he thought you should?

I think his behaviour is alarming actually. I think you need to tell the GP what is going on. Does he go out to work? You could call when he goes on Tuesday.

raspberryberet · 06/04/2007 20:38

His behaviour is not only controlling, it is abusive.

Please get this sorted out. MTS's suggestion of Women's Aid is a good one.

foxinsocks · 06/04/2007 20:44

she can't phone anyone till he's out though -could you call the crisis team once he's in bed? Just give a quick summary of the situation.

mummytosteven · 06/04/2007 20:45

social services or even HV should have a 24 hour duty system if you can only call very late at night/early morning

BizzyDint · 06/04/2007 20:46

are you still there?

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