please please please someone tell me to stop worrying

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have had cbt, it didn't help

am so anxious and worried about my health, the future, money, my kids

I want to shake it off but it's gripped me

I just feel so utterly isolated and alone, even though have dh and the dc but I have no other family

I wish I could see you pensionista! I had 3 sessions of counselling from Cruse after losing mum, but I felt it was very much me doing all the talking and I just went round in circles. I want more interaction with someone, especially if I'm paying, I can't really afford it so a lot of sessions is out the question. I can't just ramble on and not get anywhere. The cheapest I've found is £45. I earn NMW part time, I'd struggle with a lot of sessions. I dont mean to be cheap, but if it didnt work/help and cost a lot it would be awful. But then I feel for someone to sort me out would be worth their weight in gold. Am I being unrealistic?

Sorry I had to nip out.......I don't know, but you may not need a lot of sessions, if you get the right person it can be around 6 sessions, having said that I suggest you go for an initial consultation and you will know very quickly if you feel confident with that person. Gut feeling. A lot of whats going on with you is at the sub /unconcious, that's why you can't rationalise it.You will definately get interaction with an NLP/Hypnotherapist. Good hypnotherapists usually have been trained in NLP..Neuro, linguistic, programming. Counselling is not going to help you much with your problem. So you have to make a decision, you are not going to improve doing nothing, I would recommend you go for it. It's your mental health and your life. Good luck

Thanks, but what's a NLP/Hypnotherapist as opposed to a counsellor, I'm confused now?

I have found a counsellor and I'm speaking to her in about an hour's time, but maybe I shouldnt go with her?

Go! It'll be good. I thought the same about cruse. The woman just stared at me for an hour.

I'm speaking to her to see what she says about counselling, I texted her this morning to ask if I could have a chat with her, she sounds nice. I'm glad you said that about cruse, I felt guilty that I didn't really get much out of it, I thought I was doing it wrong.

she seemed nice, I'm seeing her in 2 weeks, wish me luck.....and thanks for the encouragement!

I don't think it'll change anything but am hoping it helps me to deal with myself a bit better

am almost scared to try incase it doesnt work and I feel like a lost cause

The difference between an NLP/ Hypnotherapist and a counsellor is the former works with you at the unconcious level. That's where learning and change takes place. When you are in Councelling you are working at the concious level and the "critical" part of your brain will come up with all sorts of ways to sabatage change. Sorry if this sounds complicated, but it's difficult to explain here. However, because I don't know you I cannot gage whether or not the counselling will be effective or not. The one thing I will say is YOU ARE DEFINATELY NOT A LOST CAUSE. You can be helped. The reason you think you are a lost cause is the very distorted thinking of your anxiety. I do hope all goes well with you, and doing something about how you feel is better than doing nothing.

The anxiety trap! It's awful and plays games with your body and head.

You can get over this by not tensing into the anxiety. Dr Claire Weekes calls it floating through. Not giving the thoughts any power and literally accepting the feeling yet carrying on.

Get the book! It's the only book that turns the switch off for me. She right about it all. Just stop the tension, relax, continue tasks in a normal way. Let thoughts wash over you. She also advises how to heal your over sensitised self.

It takes practice but it's life changing!

hi.
I'm 5 weeks pregnant.
had pains and had blood test yesterday at hosptil and my hormones levels are low. I have to go back tomorrow for more tests to see if they have doubled.
I've been doing pregnancy tests and there still faint. is this normal at 5 weeks. I can't sleep from worrying.
this is my 2nd pregnancy.
I have no symptoms other than tiredness and a little sickness.
thanks x

I have an apt for counselling so I said I'll have 3 sessions and I'll see how I feel, if I feel I'm not getting far I've googled what you are talking about pensionista and I'll try that...if I can, this looks like it'll get expensive..

what book is that beer?