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Husband depressed and stressed

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notsureifimbeingur · 03/09/2017 13:15

Hello I am hoping someone can help me. My husband has chronic fatigue syndrome and can usually cope with this. Recently however his work has become very stressful and his symptoms have become much worse, with depression featuring heavily most days. We are due our first child in November, and at the rate we are going, I can see myself having to look after an ill husband and a newborn. He was on antidepressants before but had horrible side effects and he is very reluctant to go back on anything like that again, I have suggested St Johns Wort as an alternative, but he has been on this before with little effect. We have tried healthy eating, exercise, meditation, acupuncture, reiki, massages, multivitamins, hair-samples sent away, to find out any allergies/lacks in his body, natural herbal remedies, doctors tests (always come back clear.) He has been signed off work before but sitting about at home made the depression worse.

We are at the end of our tether and desperately need help before the baby comes and would love some advice of other things that helped depression/CFS in anyone else.

Please help

Thank you

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LucieLucie · 03/09/2017 13:19

If the problem is triggered by stress at work then he needs to put measures in place with his line manager/HR/GP so he can cope.

AlphaStation · 03/09/2017 13:23

It could be he's in the wrong profession altogether. What does he do, what is his job?

NolongerAnxiousCarer · 03/09/2017 13:25

I would second speaking to work about reasonable adjustments under disabikity descrimination act. Aslo find out what his occupational health department offer. I am able to access councelling and psychology through mine.

Also he needs to go back to his GP and asked to be refered on for councelling/cbt/psycholgy alongside and ADs. He needs to learn long term strategies to manage stressful situations and help to stay well. He could also ask to try a different AD as sometimes it takes a few goes to find the right one.

SingaSong12 · 03/09/2017 13:25

There are a range of anti depressants. It is possible that another one may help but without the side effects.

notsureifimbeingur · 03/09/2017 21:48

Thank you for your replies, his job is in the offshore/sonar equipment field. He generally does enjoy his job, it's just the people he works with that are stressing him out.

Has anyone had any experiences with yoga?

Thanks for all your help.

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