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Please be gentle maybe pg panic

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peaandhamsoup · 29/08/2017 01:31

I have fertility problems. It's super unlikely.

But I had unprotected sex with a new guy and now panicking. He pulled out other than once when we used a condom and it came off and once the same night.

He then dumped me the next day as he felt he was being unfair on his kids taking such risks and decided he doesn't want another baby and has been clear on this all along. He hasn't! He had a pregnancy fantasy I was incredibly vulnerable to ffs! He used it on me all night that night.

I have raged all week. Then met up and stupidly had sex with him again unprotected but he did pull out.

I've just blocked him on social media but I'm so panicked. I might not even be late yet as I've no clue where I am.

Have I trapped him? I'm going to be gutted either way.

Now having cramps. Possibly period possibly implantation. I'm just lost and so hurt.

I stupidly thought perhaps he wasn't that fussed. I really want another child but I don't want one with someone who doesn't want one and if I didn't have fertility problems and have been told I won't likely get pregnant I wouldn't have even taken the risk. I'm so confused and low.

In my stupidest dreams he wants another child and that's why he chose not to use something. Figured what the hell. Unlikely but also last chance saloon.

He doesn't though. I'm in limbo and alone.

I just need a hand hold during limbo and I'm beating myself up so much already

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peaandhamsoup · 29/08/2017 13:35

Anyone? I'm so tearful today and panicked. I've been such an idiot.

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NolongerAnxiousCarer · 29/08/2017 20:32

Deep breath, you have been told its unlikely you will get pregnant. It's possible but unlikely. You don't know when your periods due so you don't know you are late. How long ago since you dtd? I would test 2 weeks after this if no AF and then again at 3 weeks if no AF.

sourpatchkid · 29/08/2017 20:47

Remember your pains could be ovulation or any other random twinge. You think it's pregnancy because your hyper vigilant to it - it's most likely going to be ok Flowers

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peaandhamsoup · 29/08/2017 22:25

Yes I've spotted now. Could be implantation could be af arriving. Terrified either way

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HappylandToysEverywhere · 29/08/2017 23:02

Take a test x

NolongerAnxiousCarer · 29/08/2017 23:29

Pink or red spotting? Red is more likely AF.

PurpleDaisies · 29/08/2017 23:33

When exactly did the unprotected sex take place? You might be in the window for emergency contraception.

Butterymuffin · 29/08/2017 23:39

It's unlikely you're pregnant but cross that bridge when you come to it. You need to get through 2 weeks as Nolonger said and then you can test and know. Can you look for a counsellor you can speak to about feeling so low and panicky if you don't see one already?

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peaandhamsoup · 30/08/2017 00:10

Pink. Stopped now. Was only pinkish mucus (tmi) sorry when I wiped on TP

I darent test as I will be gutted whatever. Af is unavoidable if she shows.

Opk is lighter than yesterday though so likely I'm not pg. not sure if it's relieving or disappointing. So confused.

I'm out of the window for the time I am most worried about. I even asked him if I should take emergency contraception and he didn't say to take it!!! I think that upsets me, he had the opportunity and I was willing to and yet he risked it and then dumps me!

All I can do is wait. It's agonising

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peaandhamsoup · 30/08/2017 00:12

I wouldn't be out the window for the last time but I'd be scared of harming a baby if I was already pg why I'm now reluctant

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peaandhamsoup · 30/08/2017 11:30

Today opk is nearly positive Confused

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PurpleDaisies · 30/08/2017 11:57

So if you're ovulating now it's unlikely that you'd be pregnant from last week's sex so I'd get the emergency contraception ASAP.

KarateKitten · 30/08/2017 11:59

When was your last period? And are they regular?

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peaandhamsoup · 30/08/2017 12:00

Too late to be ovulating for sure... but will see. Who knows. My body can do strange things

I think I'm on day 37... and think day 21 is average ovulation give or take a few days but do sometimes have an even longer or shorter cycle

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peaandhamsoup · 30/08/2017 12:02

I wish I could remember for sure when I last had a period!! Sad

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peaandhamsoup · 30/08/2017 12:05

Taken another opk... definitely positive now Sad

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SandysMam · 30/08/2017 12:18

You need to talk to someone in RL OP, your GP would be a good start. Find out for sure if you are PG then go from there. Either way, this man does not sound good for your mental health. Hope everything works out for you Flowers

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peaandhamsoup · 30/08/2017 19:02

Started bleeding thankfully

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sourpatchkid · 30/08/2017 20:03

That's great. With kindness, you might want to consider working on your self esteem - sounds like this man treated you terribly

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peaandhamsoup · 30/08/2017 21:29

I need to yes. I think he was probably not that bad a man I just turn everything sour so easily

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sourpatchkid · 30/08/2017 21:36

He didn't sound nice to me!

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