Attitudes to MH

[HoldOnHoldOn]

I'm struggling so much right now and I can honestly say that there's not a single person who I can talk to about it. I've tried, I really have but I get responses that include "you should try and get out more, start dating"; "hope you feel better soon" and "at least you've got your health". And from my one friend (who also had depression) when I hinted about my current suicidal thoughts- "I'm getting my new car this week". And yet all over FB I see posts along the lines of 'my door is always open, my kettles always ready...'. But it's not true is it?!! It's just words. Nobody really wants to help or listen. Nobody ever wants to know how I really am.

Anything you want to get off your chest OP I'm listening reading

By the way I've been there, I've suffered with MH issues and as bad as it got it got better for me and it will for you. Stay strong

not everyone gets MH problems, I think its something that is hard to understand for those who haven't been through it.

Thank you. Just that really. Why can't anyone see how much I'm struggling. When I say "I'm fine" why does no one say "no you're not".

I know but I still think there's so much of a stigma attached. And that in some way depression is 'means-tested' and by that I mean the 'what have you got to be depressed about' mentality.
I'm sorry. Thanks for listening. Bad day and needed to get that off my chest. X

I think there is also such a range of experience from mild to moderate to severe levels of depression and anxiety.
People often don't really understand the distress and overwhelm it's possible to feel.

I've had the "what have you got to be depressed about?" Thrown at me before too! I get that people just don't understand. Depression isn't necessarily something major having to happen in your life making you feel low, it can just happen and it is an illness that isn't taken as seriously as it should do.
Just know that not everyone is going to understand especially if they haven't had the same experience as what you're going through right now.
Is there anyone in RL that would be able to understand that you can talk to?

Also if you are saying that you are fine how are they supposed to know you are not? I am now very good at saying "No I'm not OK" and often people are surprised when I say this as I put on a good act of being OK a lot of the time. When I told one girl at work I was struggling she said "don't worry you are not the 'sort' to fall appart" (this was someone who has suffered with anxiety)a few days later I went off sick for 3 months. It annoys me that she thinks there are a type of people affected, everyone can be affected by mental health problems.

Also I agree with PP, there are different levels of mental health problem. I have suffered with depression, anxiety and PTSD and been suicidal. I can't imagine feeling worse than this, but I know it does get worse because I have been managed by my GP sucessfully, some people end up in hospital. DH suffers from psychosis and depression, he has been hospitalised, he is under a psychiatrist and has been seeing a CPN regularly for years. When he told his boss that he had suffered a 'break down' and was struggling, they told him that they had suffered a 'break down' in the past too and understood and I remember thinking "I bet he doesn't understand what that actually means for DH" a few weeks later he was told he was going to be taken through a disciplinary process for his attitude and that his contract wouldn't be renewed.