Please advice....Anxiouty and panic after birth on Monday(26th)Normal???

[mum2oliver]

This is my second child.I delivered in an hour and a half and was induced by having waters broken as I was 10 days over.I had a S&S on the 7th day over.I arrived in hospital and was 3 cm dilated with no contractions.
My first baby was 6hour delivery.It was very normal and I did have baby blues ie cried alot and shit myself thinking what have I done!
This time I am having anxiouty and panicking that I cannot cope.My dh is fantastic.He is so supportive.He is shattered and so am I.
I just need to hear that this is normal and other people feel this way too.
I sat there on Monday night (delivery day) after being discharged (5hrs after del)trying to eat something and was suddenley overwelmed with panic and anxiouty and humungous fear of everthing.I feel extremely lonely even though im not.Please can someone comment....

Your hormones are all over the place, and you have had a very quick birth which can be very traumatic even if it doesn't seem so at the time. I bet you have had very little sleep over the past few days. I think the 3rd post-delivery day is typically a real watershed for feeling overwhelmed.

The two things to remember are: this feeling will pass, and what you are feeling is completely normal.

Congratulations on your new arrival.

this sounds extremely normal - baby blues. I had it with my first for about a week after the birth and with my second for 48 hours - with the first it was due to the hugeness of it all, with the second it was due to the total trauma of her arrival and awful staff at the hospital. It was overwhelming both times and all I could do was cry. I didn't feel like myself at all. But both times it just took a few days of being at home, eating properly and not doing anything except look after baby and/or toddler. With any luck you should start to feel more normal again once you get over the impact of the birth and of going from one child to two. If you still feel like that in a week or so you could mention it to the HV. She will have heard it all before! It's not your fault it's just the hormonal shift of not being pregnant. Cyber hugs x

This is what I need to hear.
I have a few friends that have had babies in the last few months and have not expressed anything like what I am describing.

Mum2oliver, first of all congratulations! You have done an amazing thing in so far as you have had another baby. Well done!

Your second labour although induced went incredibly quickly and I think that we often forget that quick labours are often as traumatic as slow ones as you don;t seems to have enough time to get your head around the idea that finally the baby is coming out! I know this too well, as dd2 only took an hour and a half too having also been induced.

I would also say that the feeling of being overwhelmed is also perfectly normal. It's the reality of suddently realising that your life is changing and that you have another baby to look after. I can remember being totally panicked about how on earth I was ever going to be able to cope with two - how would I get both of them into bed, get them fed, ever get out of the house, etc. etc. Even the smallest task seemed like an impossibility. I think a lot of what you're feeling is down to hormones - call it baby blues the second time around if you like.

I can honestly say that within a week or so, I felt very much more in control and managing with 2 didn't feel that overwhelming any more. I did need a lot of support from dh though and what helped me enormously was talking to friends who had recently gone through the same thing and getting and then using their ideas for coping with certain siutations.

So please don't worry, your feeling are very normal, you need to catch up on some rest and maybe just make sure your midwife, dh and family know how you are feeling.

it is ok ! you are ok ...you had a very fast delivery, and porbably still adjusting , you might be a little bit shocked by it all!

it is ok, you can cope, you will cope

as mrsdarcy has said, the 3rd day post delivery can be hard, as your body realsies it is no longer pregnant, there are massive hormonal changes, and your milk comes in too!!

is your DH around?

have you friends and family you can call on ?

make sure you get some help with the practicalities, of shopping, cooking, cleaning etc, so you can enjoy your baby

sounds like you have had no time to adjust....

induced, no contractions to indicate things were happening first, then wham bam ! baby ! and then home barely 8 hours after getting to hospital....

no wonder you are reeling

Oh sweetheart, congratulations to you and dh! From what you have just written about your birth, I am not at all surprised that you feel overwhelmed and anxious: 1.5hours sounds like a really quick birth, esp. after running 10 days late... It's probably only now all started to sink in.
As mrs Dacry wrote already, 3-5 days post-delivery is when it all hits you suddenly. I don't think it matters, if it is delivery of baby number one, two, three, four, whatever. It's the combination of the lack of sleep and raging hormones that does the trick, time and time again. Actually, personally -like you- I found the birth of number two a lot harder to deal with than of number one. But somehow we managed, and ds2 is now just over 16 months! Give it a little time, try to catch as much sleep as you can (I know, tough one with a newborn and an older child), and you'll see that as you regain your energy, you'll start feeling better again.
Wishing you well, {hugs}

thank you so much you guys.
its now day 11 and i feel great. im really happy (but shattered)Have shed 2 stone in 9 days and went clothes shopping today.
My new dd is settling in very well and we are all getting to know each other.
I still cant believe how I felt and never want to feel that way again.I feel I could of losst ti there for a bit.My dh proved to be an absolute star and I will always remember this.Im so glad I married him in January!