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Therapist/ counsellor

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misswhatdoto2 · 21/07/2017 19:41

Just after some advise as to how to find help?

Am just coming out of a divorce and have had a lot of time to think about things and self reflection. I'm beginning to think that perhaps speaking with someone professional may help me to move forward. Having come through the divorce I have realised that I am very conflict adverse (always knew this but much more evident after everything that has happened). I am a complete people pleaser and much to my detriment as several times I have literally reached emotional burn out from keeping things bottled up as to not upset people. I also have little confidence in all areas of my life. It's like I don't trust anything I do incase it's wrong instead of sometimes just biting the bullet, facing the wrath and moving on with my life. I also have difficulties in actually opening up 100% and expressing how I'm feeling and what I'm thinking.
I believe some of this comes from my childhood where things have happened (abuse) and I was desperate to be in with the crowd throughout school and onwards.
I feel a little stronger in that I can identify these weaknesses in me but doesn't mean I am actually stronger and often despise myself for being this way.
I have no experience of mental health and wouldn't know where to start. What kind of professional would I need to find? How do you find them? How much do they cost roughly?

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WasWildatHeart · 21/07/2017 21:14

Hi MissWhat
I am not an expert but have personal experience. Sounds like you might benefit from a therapist who can support you to think deeper into your way of being. The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy gives details of registered therapists and what treatments they offer. expect to pay £45 to £80 per session. Most important thing is to find someone you like and trust, who's approach suits you. Hope that helps?

ladyface69 · 21/07/2017 21:30

Hi Miss

Have you considered going to your GP? they are the 'gateway' to accessing all kinds of therapies - for free - and will have lots of places you can be signposted to. You could also search for NHS counselling in your area online. I've just put 'NHS counselling [my county]' into google and it's bought all the local ones up that I'm aware of. Most of them accept self-referrals.
I know that realising you may want to work on some issues is only half the battle, and the next step is approaching a professional to tell them your problems. But you don't have to pay for it!

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misswhatdoto2 · 21/07/2017 21:49

Thank you both x

lady I didn't realise you could self refer and tbh feel a bit of a fraud going to gp as not a 'proper' mental health problem.

Will have a Google and look into NHS ones xxx

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