pnd?

[topsy1]

not sure what to do. ever since ds2 birth i've been feeling down. it now feels like its spirling out of control. my dh isn't very supprotive to me - expects me to do everything in the house because i'm a sahm, will make me a cup of tea after supper but thats all. he will help with the boys but only when he feels like it - my hv did the edinburgh pnd test on me and even with trying to make out that i felt better than i did, i can out border line. however - things now feel worse and worse. i'm very ratty with dh, and feel i've had enough. is this pnd or just a bad patch in our marriage? my ds2 is 18 weeks, ds1 is 2.4 yrs.

oh hun. I know how you feel. my kids are going mad right now, so i can't stay and chat, but i hope you get some good support on here. i'll try to check back later if i can
xxx

wow ! 2 very young kids and a lack of support

see GP urgentyl, see about some ADs and look at contacting Homestart or surestart x

Hi topsy...I felt like this...I remember freaking out coz dh would'nt do any night feeds..I was so exhausted..went to GP and sobbed..she prescribed me fluoxitine, which has really helped me...I have taken them for a year now..I am not saying that medication is the right way for you..but pls go and visit your gp and get some help..hugs to you x

hi hon, i know exactly how you feel, i have spent the whole day in tears convincing myself that ds and i would be better off without my dp. thought i was depressed because i was lonely but now i think its PND. my HV tested me and it came out quite high, and i think i am going to get counselling. having made that decision i feel better. im fed up of trying to guess at what is making me so miserable all the time. it cant hurt, i guess to get an objective perspective. hope you find an answer somewhere too. good luck xx

thank you SO much for your support - its so nice to have some understanding. tried to talk to dh about it last night, but just turned into arguement - he kept asking 'what am i meant to do about it?' and 'you don't understand how i'm feeling' tried to spell it out to him, but he was more concerned baout how it was effecting him. i don't knwo if ADs are the answer here - still bf a bit and don't want to give that up, as feel i gave other feeds up too easily.

It ain't fun.

never mind HVs, make appointment to talk with GP right away. You might feel better just from doing that, by itself. You don't have to take ADs, just discuss it with him/her, though ADs can be very helpful IMHO.

As for DH, well unfortunately that's pretty typical. In my experience even having a sympathetic DH wasn't much use-he was always out at work. I would forget about relying on him for support for the moment, and look for other sources like your friends and family if possible, even just by phone, and try homestart and the NCT, which the GP can probably point you towards as well. Once you start finding some resources of your own, things might improve with DH.