How can i stop these feelings of doom?

[oaktree]

Iam on my own with 2 kids ( 3 & 6m)whilst DH is in Afghanistan until july - he will be away almost 7 months. I'm constantly worried about the children - that every tummy bug is something mroe sinister, that teething is really a symptom of somehting else. I'm forever at the Drs getting them checked out & think they are getting fed up with me. I have been there a lot as they have had every bug going over the winter.
the youngest is going through a patch of not sleeping through so I'm permanently pooped adding to which I work part time at home & am really struggling to get things done.
for some reason as well i'm becoming obssessed with thoughts of anyone close to me dying.
i don't feel depressed as such just a bit overwhelmed.

I think being obessed with death is a symptom of depression - not sure and it may or may not be relevant to you anyway (iyswim - imo a diagnosis of depression is not always helpful).

But then in the circs it not really surprising that you're feeling a bit doom-ly. and it must be scarey with two such young children on your own. ds1 and ds2 are 3 and 6 months so I can imagine what you're going though and frankly, it's painful to do so. You're a brave woman for not running off to your mum's or something, which i think is what I'd do.

Mine is also not sleeping well. am currently experimenting with putting him to sleep without the dummy. it looks like it's going to work but I'm still knackered. and being tired affects everything else I find. are you able to nap OK?

thank you.I'm just worried that perhaps i am depressed as opposed to just stressed!

I've never been a napper but have been reduced to taking brufen at 2 in teh morning when I've woken up too much to get back to slepp. I've had a few days where I've been up first with 1 child then the other since 2 - 3am & that just isn't funny.

My Dr is very nice but childfree so i wonder if she will take me seriuosly.

I think I'd give the doc a try. A childfree doc should be able to help: if docs had to experience everything their patients did they'd never be able to work! She might not be able to help, it's true, but what have you got to lose?

But like I say, I think you're doing really well considering. can you take a day or two off work to catch up with sleep?

oaktree - those feelings of thinking the worst everytime someone close to you has a bug was a definate symptom of depression for me.

I was obsessed with loved ones dying, and with myself dying. Everytime my lo cried I visualised him crying at my funeral

Was eventually diagnosed with depression, referred for counselling and given AD's. That was two years ago. Am now nearly off the AD's and feeling much much better.

Try to talk to a sympathetic GP.

Am here if you want to talk.

xx

I can not believe someone else is going through exactly the same as me! I thought I was on my own & going mad.
Any little illness, I think it will lead to something serious! Was at work last night & tried to ring home, no reply, but instead of thinking that dh & DD were not back from the shops yet, I imagined they'd been in a bad accident and pannicked. I so want to get these thoughts out of my head, but don't know how. What do you start to say to a G.P?

You tell the GP exactly what you have put in your post. The constant feelings of doom, panicking over every little symptom, and take it from there...

Chances are your GP has seen many patients with this feeling, so he/she will be able to tell you about it.

hth
xx

You just feel so stupid saying it out loud...
But, I do want this sorting out, so I shall make an appointment and see. Thanks, x