HELP!

[iwillescapesoon]

I don't want to reveal too much information but basically my DP is suicidal. A combination of several things but a huge thing involving things from my past and basically he can't live with or without me.
What do I do??
This situation is absolutely toxic and protecting the DC is becoming more and more difficult 😔
I seriously believe he needs to be sectioned for his own safety and that of others if they get on the wrong side of him (would like to add not me and the DC he would never hurt us)
HELP!

Anyone??

I'm sorry but my immediate thought is for you and the children. If you aren't safe call the police. If he's not safe call an ambulance.

He can't cope with something you did? Unless you abused him I'll bet he's controlling

Has he got a mental health diagnosis? Anyone involved with his care-crisis team etc?

If you think you're in immediate danger I agree calling 999 is a good idea.

Mind are a really great source of support/information as are the Samaritans. Give them a call. Good luck

You need help- call the doctor go out of hours or equivalent in your area, or 999 if you think he is at risk.

He's been diagnosed with issues before and never followed any treatment through. I don't know how to put it without sounding odd - me and the DC are not in danger (except maybe me from my immense headache and stress) but If say he thought a man in the public like a shopkeeper was being sleazy with me he would flip his fucking lid

Will they listen to me if I tell them he is suicidal and needs committing even if he denies it?

Has he ever made a suicide attempt? As far as I understand without an attempt or him hurting himself it is really hard to get someone sectioned.

My DH was hospitalised after a suicide attempt (a very serious one, noone sure how he survived) and he was told to either voluntarily admit himself or they would seek to have him sectioned.

I must admit that mental health services are a hell of a lot easier to access when you can say he was in a psychiatric hospital for a month.

Yes he has been under the care of a crisis team before for being close to committing suicide

Do you want him actually sectioned or just hospitalised for awhile? I'm guessing he has no idea how bad he is. Contact the crisis care team and see what they can do. Some areas have mental health drop in centres open in the evenings. Even if the crisis care team can't help they might be able to tell you where the closest one is to you.

A hand hold from me. Its so fucking hard living alongside this.

I want him hospitalised until they can see what can possibly help him. Yes he is controlling in response to a PP but his issues stem way deeper than me. If I didn't feel so scared that I'd have to tell my kids their dad was dead I'd have ran a mile already

I've always been of the opinion people who are actually serious don't bang on about it a lot they just do it if they feel so low. Am I a bad person? 😩

No, you're not a bad person. I had absolutely no idea that my DH was going to make an attempt. He hadn't said anything to anyone. Until the police arrived at my door I was oblivious.

I'm sorry he is ringing alarms bell for me - it's you I'm worried about not him. I feel he's blaming mental health for controlling you. If you don't want to be with him then leave. Don't stay because he threatens suicide

(And with love to PP who's partners have been through tough times - my comment wasn't aimed at them at all )