Citalopram

[Martin1954]

I need help please, basically my estranged wife has been on this drug for three years or so now, about 18 months ago she just stopped taking them, after a week or so she went back on them, then she stopped then she started and its been like that ever since. I have noticed so much change in her over the last 18 months to the point we are now apart, she accused me of domestic violence I have never touched her ever so why would I now. I am of the opinion that this Citalopram is the cause and she imagined it all, She has in the past had sleep problems, feeling sick, dizzy spells, irregular heart beat, sweats extremely heavy periods, headaches that have made her cry, she has had to lay on the bed so many times unable hardly to move, crying for no reason, snappy, irritable, hits the boys, short tempered, abusive to me. I pointed out to her hundreds of time that she was causing her own problem by misuse of the drug. Am I in any way close to thinking that the alleged attack is in her mind. I feel I am in a goldfish bowl with all of this, I can say hand on heart in twenty years we hardly ever had a bad word, now she totally hates me and is so vindictive towards me. Help please.

I don't think starting and stopping ADs would do that. they aren't drugs you can 'abuse'.

Domestic abuse can take many forms including financial and emotional abuse. TBH pointing out 'hundreds of times' that's she's 'creating her own problems' doesn't scream supportive husband.

Maybe if she's being vindictive and accusing you of things it's best to leave her alone for a while. If you have concerns about the boys you need to speak to someone about that though.

I found stopping citalopram made me cry all the time, I had headaches, was irrational and did suffer night sweats, I was not abusive though, I spoke to my GP and she said I had stopped incorrectly, so I restarted and within a few days most of the above symptoms vanished. Good luck you DW needs to see her GP.

Many thanks for your responses. I was a very supportive husband u sat German down many times and showed her threads on the Internet, I have spent hours and hours giving her massages body and head to try and calm her down, I went to the doctors about my concerns, I told her and she was very annoyed with me. I asked the doctor to give me something to dampen my sex drive. I funded umpteen pills at Holland and Barratt. It's a shame but all I got was I know what I am doing leave me alone.