freaking out and need to vent

[snipersmum]

I am 39 wks pg with no 3, Dh is in the Army and currently in Canada and has been for the last 4 months. Am sitting here with the beginnings of labour,(bh and cramps - could be a week to go or could come tonight) and DS1 is getting up and down from bed every 5 minutes crying cause he misses daddy and knows baby is coming and we are moving in 4 weeks time. DH has just rung me to say he has been told he is deploying to iraq for 6 months in mid june. OMG OMG OMG. I would be hyperventilating if I had the energy. really really feel I can't cope. My mother is here to help with the children while I give birth and is saying lots of useful things (not) such as 'oh well, at least he might be home in time for christmas'. Dh is due back on Mon - not sure the baby will wait till then. i want to go and lie down in a darkened room and not get up again - especially not the inevitable 5 times tonight to deal with DS1.

Hello you - this is sooooo weird - was about to email you on outlook to ask how you're doing and then suddenly saw your name as I was looking through the active conversations! Hope you're ok - is your mum actually there now?
Do you think it's actually labour - like tonight and similar to DS2? Don't fret - can you have an english womany-type SSFA person there in hospital with you if DH doesn't get back in time? Or can't you call him and just tell him to come back tonight, instead of Monday. What could they do if you said you were in labour already - nothing!!! He could be back by tomrrow then.

If you did go into labour - is there someone who could have the boys overnight and then have your mum come to hospital with you? Or is your mum coming with you not a good idea?!

Hey lucie. I was hoping you would be on tonight. Mum is here - I have a neighbour on standby to come with me to hospital. Better that the boys are here with mum than anyone else. Iraq's been brought forward, hence the freak out. pants pants pants.

Sending you lots of big hugs sweetie - try not to worry though - this baby is coming at some point and the boys will be fine with your mum. It's nice that your neighbour will come with you - bring on the German herbal salts!
How are the pains now? Perhaps it's just the baby getting ready rather than actually 'the business'? I guess the pains are more accute at the beginning with progressive babies as your muscles are looser?

Forget about Iraq! That's not going to relax you! Are you actually having contractions? Anyway - you should be in bed at this time you naughty girl - bank the sleep now!

crampy and carying between bh and contractions. i went through this with ds2 for about 3 weeks, which was such a pain and at least ds1 was sleeping then. he is so upset by dh not being here - having a complete meltdown. did your DD go through this? Pants, got to go, more children to loook after. will ring you tomorrow, sleep well

Bye bye - yes - DD is going through it today and the past 4 months. Will speak to you tomorrow. Take care xx

Snipersmum - Oh hun. Dh is raf and they are so much better at this. Hope you are OK. You will cope, you are strong, and I don't usually do this but I send you [[hugs]]

You're probably reading this tomorrow now - DD had massive loopy hissy fit tonight when she asked me what I'd done with her yellow dummy (she has 5 altogether). I told her calmly that I'd put it in the bin last week as it had a huge hole in and was a breeding ground for germs and not good to put in her mouth. She literally broke down and said she couldn't forgive me for what I'd done and she just wanted Daddy back! Blimey!!! Then I began crying due to the guilt so today (22nd) I'm off to the village chemist to see if they still stock the exact same yellow dummies (with the same handle she requested) from over a year ago! Call me today if you want or I'll give you a buzz (hopefully when you're not having a nice nap!)

Just wanted to say after calling this morning, when I said "I don't mind you whinging" I didn't mean you were whinging - just that I wouldn't mind if you did!!! I was a bit worried you thought I was meaning that you were whinging!
Lots of love x