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How to stop snapping

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BigYellowJumper · 20/06/2017 08:28

My mum had a habit of snapping and making sarcastic remarks at us. It really affected my confidence, even though some of the comments seem really like nothing now. It has also really affected my relationship with her, to the extent that I keep my distance a bit these days.

I have unfortunately picked up her habit though, and I hate it about myself. Like, really hate it, and every time I say something sarcastic, I am filled with guilt. I have tried really hard to reign it in over the years. I still make snappy comments a few times a month though, especially when I am feeling attacked.

I have a really great relationship with my husband, and he has made it really clear that he hates when I am rude to him, so I have made a big effort to stop doing this. As soon as I snap at him, I apologise and I try not to make excuses for myself because I know that just makes it worse.

We are planning on having kids in the next few years, and I would be devastated if they felt the same way about me as I do about my mother.

Has anyone successfully stopped being a sarcastic person? I'm so ashamed of my behaviour sometimes.

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NolongerAnxiousCarer · 20/06/2017 17:50

I wonder if some councelling would help, when we understand the underlying reasons behind our behaviour it can help us to change the behaviour. And the reasons are often more complex than they first appear. I had a relatively normal childhood, but have seen several councellors over the years and uncovered loads of childhood issues which have been impacting on me as an adult.

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