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Mental health

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feeling really bad about this! And already worrying!

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bubblicious · 20/03/2007 21:55

I have suffered really bad depression over the last 7 yrs following the birth of my DD! I have to say now Im not actually depressed but deeply unhappy, unsettle and unnerved about what is going on right now. Since the end of Nov I have received regular CBT for my phobia on sickness, it has reall helped and I am really moving on in the right direction. The trouble is I have found that my therapist is the best I have ever had, and I really don't want to lose her and next week is my last app. I have told her how I feel, and bless her heart she allowed me to have extra sessions. But I know that when I say goodbye next week thats it! Im really worried how I will cope, when i know that Im seeing her I feel that I can cope with anything.

Does anyone else feel like this when they leave therapy?

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losty · 20/03/2007 22:06

oh bubble I empathise entirely. It is so hard finishing a relationship with a therapist. All I can suggest is, if you feel you are not ready to stop for now, and it HAS to stop, then tell her you dont feel you are ready and find out how to get more sessions eg another referral rfrom the GP.

However, sometimes we have to learn to live apart from the 'crutches' and we can only learn to do that, but doing it IYKWIM.

Sorry that is probably no help whatsover...

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bubblicious · 20/03/2007 22:07

cheers chuck

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Pinkchampagne · 20/03/2007 22:08

Is it definitely your last session next week, bubble?

You are dealing so much better with your phobia now, and that is all your doing! You can always go back if things get bad, remember that.

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bubblicious · 20/03/2007 22:12

well I think so, I did try and mention what I would like and that was to tailor it off but not sure she was up to this- Bloody NHS

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mummytosteven · 20/03/2007 22:13

I think it is difficult to move on, as with a good therapist you are having regular contact with someone who is not only empathetic but also seems to completely "get" where one's fears/disordered thought processes are coming from. It is however part of the CBT ethos that therapy should only be time limited. Explain to her how you feel, I am sure she will be used to being asked about this. As PC says, if things really go tits up in future, you would be able to be referred back to her I would have thought.

losty · 20/03/2007 22:14

that is sort of what I was trying to say but the others have said it better.

hi pc

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bubblicious · 20/03/2007 22:15

I think the trouble stems here that I had to wait 9mths to see her, and now I have her(very selfishly) I dont want to give her up!

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losty · 20/03/2007 22:16

I know waht you mean bubble. does it help if you think abck over the past 9 mnths and see how far ytou have come?

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bubblicious · 20/03/2007 22:18

absolutely losty, I certainly dont want to go there again!

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Pinkchampagne · 20/03/2007 22:19

You often don't get much choice with NHS counselling, that's the problem!
My counsellor managed to give me an extra 6 weeks over what is meant to be the max, during my last lot of sessions - but that was because things were so badly up in the air. She also had to get permission from my GP to enable me to have extra sessions.
From what I can make out, they seem to have tightened up more now.

You will be ok though, bubble. You have come a long way since starting your sessions & that won't go away just because your counsellor isn't there every week...you have done it yourself!!

Pinkchampagne · 20/03/2007 22:21

Hi losty.

See how you go, bubble, and if you really panic, you know you can go back to your GP & be put on the waiting list for more sessions.

AMAZINWOMAN · 20/03/2007 22:21

I dont know anything about counselling, but im pretty sure most people would feel like this. Mention to your counsellor and she may be able to help. There may be a next satge, such as a support group, or phone counselling etc

losty · 20/03/2007 22:22

it *is8 hard tho isnt it? I took it very badlyu when I stopped mny last lot of counselling. I knew I had made progress but I still resented haveing to stop.

Pinkchampagne · 20/03/2007 22:23

My poor counsellor has had me back 3 times over a 3 year period!!

losty · 20/03/2007 22:27

its his job pc - dont feel bad about ti

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bubblicious · 20/03/2007 22:30

PC not sure I will be at work tomorrow!!!!!

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Pinkchampagne · 20/03/2007 22:30

I am a bit embarrassed about round number three, I must say! The first thing I did when I walked into her room, was say "Really sorry you've got me back!!"

Pinkchampagne · 20/03/2007 22:30

Why??

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bubblicious · 20/03/2007 22:30

I keep on saying thank you oh and thank you, oh and to be realy really honest!

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bubblicious · 20/03/2007 22:31

Go on MSN and I will tell you!

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Pinkchampagne · 20/03/2007 22:33

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