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Mental health

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so today I wore short sleeves!

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dangermouseisace · 14/06/2017 19:21

..into town for the first time in…oooh a decade or a so.

I've got scars. The bad ones are old, the more recent (last year) ones are indistinguishable from the old (15-20+ years ago)

I'd psyched myself up that everything would be fine, no-one would notice or at least say anything. However. Literally the First Person I Saw (bus driver) felt that it was appropriate to make a comment/ask me questions.

As soon as I got home I made sure I had a cardigan to take with me for the next time I went out. It's not as easy as I thought. Was I just unlucky, or is this just how it is?

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BreezyBreeze · 14/06/2017 19:23

Well done.
Don't let any comments ruin your self esteem.
I think you had bad luck today. Try again.

Woodenmouse · 14/06/2017 19:25

Congratulations!
Don't let one twat out you off. It gets easier I promise.

disneykid · 14/06/2017 19:27

Well done. Everyone seems to judge no matter what you look like. Just ignore anyone who makes a big deal out of it. You should be proud of yourself. I'm happy that you're feeling more confident x

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dangermouseisace · 14/06/2017 19:42

he was one the surface 'nice' asking if I was 'alright now' but I was just shocked and told him that was all, like, 20 years ago!

Thank you for your nice comments. I hope it does get easier…

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AllTheWittyNamesAreGone · 14/06/2017 19:51

I work with young children and I get comments very often from them and that's fine, they are curious and want to know I'm not hurt
Rarely get them from adults now, their gaze sometimes lingers on my arms and neck but very few ask.
It does get easier (cliche, I know) the more you do it the less self conscious you are about them and stop noticing the looks, suddenly a few weeks will Go by and you will realize you forgot about them

One woman stroked my scars on the tube once, didn't say a word or look at my face..that threw me

HannahGlasgowGal · 15/06/2017 15:08

I'm so sorry your first experience was like that. Honestly people making comments is very rare. Well done, showing scars is incredibly difficult so it's a massive achievement. If you need to go back to long sleeves for a while that's fine too. Take it at your pace. I don't even think about it now, but it took me a long time to get here

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