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Hulaballoo · 13/06/2017 15:25

Hi, I had a miscarriage on December 16'. We'd planned the outstanding, had discussed and talked about it. It would have been out 3rd. I have 2 DDs 6 and 9. My DH doesn't want anymore now despite having discussed and talked through before. He doesn't think it'll be fair on our 2. I'm finding in crying at the drop off a hat in private... When friends mention they're pregnant, when I hear about it. Just thinking about the future and knowing there are no more babies for us. Even husband and I looking at possibly moving home, her says we can turn a 4th bedroom into a study, we don't need 4 rooms... It hurts so much. I'm probably overreacting but I'm not sure how to get over this pain. I'm 37 and he's 39. We've talked about it twice, January and in April but he feels stressed and pressured so I don't mention it anymore. I think he just thinks I'll forget. I know in my heart he doesn't want more bit is probably trying not to hurt me by saying it outright. I think I'm so sad that one minute we were going for it and now... No more. Aside that everything else is great, get along, frequent sex (with protection), just really good. It's only the sadness inside knowing there's no more babies for me. I know I'm not going to push him and it's not fair if he doesn't..It takes two. Just wondering if anyone had the same and how long did it takes to heal this feeling of loss? 😥

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NolongerAnxiousCarer · 13/06/2017 22:18

Flowers I've got no experience, but to me 6 months doesn't seem like a long time since your loss and I can understand you still grieving. Have you spoken to your GP? It sounds like some councelling might be helpful.

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