Anger - how have you/do you let go of it?

[shazkiwi]

I have just realised that I can't let go of anger even though I should. I think have been this way for many years. I know it isn't productive to feel this way and it can negatively affects my thoughts/reactions. At the moment my anger towards a particular situation feels physical - like a horrible rash on the inside that I can't scratch. Any ideas or suggestions on how to get rid of anger once a situation is "done & dusted" welcome.

It partly depends on what the anger is about (I am in no way asking you to elaborate). Would it help to write a letter to someone (which you will never post) telling them exactly how you feel and using as many swear words as you like? Would it help to thing about this phrase that I read recently: "Forgiveness doesn't excuse their actions; it stops their actions from destroying your heart." Would it help to talk to someone (a friend / family member / a complete stranger if you have access to any counselling) about what happened and how it made you feel? Could mindfulness help (lots of self-help you can Google)?

CBT could certainly help if you have access to free therapy or can afford to pay for it.

If your anger is against a particular person remember unforgiveness is you drinking the poison hoping they will die. They dont deserve your forgiveness but you dont deserve them taking up space in your head.