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[vizbizz]

rant to vent, ignore if you like

I knew I had PTSD, but an assessment today says I also have some elements of depression also. After months of trying to get some psych help, is that so surprising? I have PTSD, am still in pain, and noone is helping in a useful way.

They have assessed me, but can't treat me. I am the parcel in a cruel form of pass-the-parcel. Now I get referred to someone else again, and wait for that too.

No wonder kids get shaken/beaten/ etc. After this last year I understand how it happens. Sometimes people need help NOW, and after another appointment like this one the last thread holding you together can so easily snap.

Why the F%$# did I decide to have a baby? Biggest mistake of my life.

is there any friend or family around you vizbizz, i am sorry for you.
i wish i could be near and help.
hugs and xxx

Massive ((((((((((HUGS))))))))))) for you.
You have to DEMAND help now, can someone kick up a fuss on your behalf?

Can you get help with the baby? Just a few hours a week would help. A teenager to take baby for walks would be a start.

MIND helpline: 0845 766 0163
SANE helpline: 0845 767 8000

You may have done this already, but these helplines may be able to give you some useful info on getting things moving and provide some support. Hope things improve for you. As others have said, can you get some help with the baby from family/friends/neighbours?

is ptsd post traumatic stress disorder? was it the birth or something else ? I agree with others you need to kick up a fuss ,i work in the nhs and its sad but true but those who shout loudest get a better deal , so ring everyone and anyone cry,scream and rant , Whats your gp like ? could they not push for you aswell ?

hi all, thanks for your replies and support. No, I have noone to help except hubby. Don't get me wrong, he is fantastic, but is only home in the evenings. I only moved here a few years ago, and most of the people I know work.

The PTSD isn't so much the birth as the non-stop pain of after. It's been a year, and I am still sore.I have spent a year carrying on, fussing and complaining. I sound like a broken record to myself.

My case is a complicated one, and it seems noone knows what's causing the prob, so put it in the too-hard basket and pass it along to someone else.

I am being passed back to my GP for anti-depressants to start with. Still have to wait for psych help. I know with just help for the PTSD, the depression would resolve.... it is a symptom of having it so long untreated. I went to counselling for a while, but need more than that at this stage. Don't have money to pay for it, but trying to get referred to someone without having to pay is like looking for a needle in a haystack.

I am fed up, pi$$ed off and SOOO tired.

You poor thing

Could you write to the bigwigs at the hospital direct begging for help?

I hope the AD's do a little to help whilst you're waiting.

unfortunately not. The times I wrote to them, or phoned were pretty unhelpful. They make it sound like they are doing something, but nothing eventuates. In the meantime I wait to see someone else.

I am not at risk of self-harming, or of harming my son, so they don't hurry. You become a non-urgent case and they dally about.

vizbizz,where do you live? if you are near me im happy to take ds off your hands for a few hours.

unfortuantly i dont think your case is particually rare, i begged the services for help for years with my son who had alot of pent up anger regarding my divorce from his dad 11 years ago,we didnt get any help until it was too late and my son left home at 16. luckily we are very close and i see him every day and we have worked through his problems but how awfull for a young lad to have to live with them problems for 11 years with no outside help.

vizbizz i send you loads of virtual hugs and urge you to keep plugging away for the help you need.

ask you doctor about EMDR therapy for PTSD. It can be very beneficial. I had it done. Worth looking into.

Hi Smee,
thanks for the offer, but I am in NZ perhaps just a tad too far for help

hi angel.
The ladies that did my assessment have said they will refer me for CBT, and I was going to ask about EMDR also. I am just waiting to get things started. I have known about some of this stuff from other MNers, but getting to psych help is the hard part.

arrrr bit too far then!

just a smidge

an update: Finally have decent pain relief!!!!! There aren't words to express my lift in mood. Sorry if TMI, but it is so nice not be aware of your nether regions every waking moment. How can one not be happier with that?! Still struggle to get through a lot of days, but it's easier not being in pain all the time.

There also aren't anywhere near enough words to express my anger that I had to suffer for 13 months before I got them!!!

Still waiting for psych help. sigh
Every time I see a pregnant woman I want to shake her and say "don't do it!!!" Too Late, she already has. Makes me feel like an idiot.