Can anyone help me decide what to do?

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2 young kids, overwhelmed and exhausted by all the work involved, very low self esteem (tonnes of postpartum hair loss, previously flat stomach now classic mum tum etc), marriage in tatters, complete inability to feel happy in spite of good things. Very negative outlook, completely unfulfilled, feel lost, empty and despondent.

But I really don't want to take antidepressants again nor do I fancy talking to somebody. Is there any other way forward?

I feel desperately unhappy. I feel like I don't know how to be happy. I have lots to be grateful for but still feel terrible.

Hi op firstly I wouldn't worry about the hair loss I was shedding like a dog after I had my dd (hair in food accidentally etc) but it's only temporary no one will notice hair loss and it will slow down eventually.

Secondly what age are your dc, and are you still living with your dp at the moment. Is your relationship over or do you think it's something you can work.

I think you need to sit down one time and make a list of everything starting with the more manageable ones for now or the most important whatever you prefer. Then make other pointers as to the small steps you can make to achieve this.

Are you a sahm or are you going back to work, do you have any career aspirations.

I'm asking so many questions just to try understand your situation better to give you some advice.

Things like meditation, mindfulness and exercise can help, but once we get to a certain point ADs these kinds of things arn't always enough. In my personal experience I find going on ADs as soon as I feel I'm starting to slip stops me getting as low as the first time. Theres no shame in taking medication. If you had diabetes would you be happy to take insulin?