my friend just gave birth,im happy but sad too as i cant have anymore

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i am happy for her but cant help feeling upset.i thought i was coping after being advised to have no more.i phoned her all jolly and congratulating but made it worse as io couldnt cope with hearing baby things.how can i visit?buy pressie for baby etc?i know i sound dumb and childish but cant help it.

oh, poor you. it must feel rotten to be torn like that. you did the right thing by phoning. i think all you can do is swallow hard and continue to try to be happy for her.

who advised you to have no more? were you planning to or is it just now youve been told no more it feels more final than youd like?

That must be terrible. I imagine its awful when that choice of having more or not is taken away from you.

You know what its like to feel elated after giving birth, she will be feeling the same so well done for phoning her. The baby she has just had is about her, not you so try to be strong and push your feelings to one side - just momentarily - for her sake.

Have you got good support around you by way of family/friends?

Also, does your friend know your circumstances too, I bet if she does she probably feels bad about it all too