On self destruct!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Lulu41]

I am on self destruct and dont know how to stop. I am overeating, drinking too much and I look like a bag lady most days dont know how to get some sort of motivation back. Am on ADs so dont know what else to do. Help please

Sorry Lulu dont have much advice really, so bumping for you! Why are you on self destruct? Is there anything in particular that you are depressed about? How long have you been on AD's for? Sorry so many questions just trying to get a clearer picture!

Have been on ADs for about 6 months now - think I am self destructing it feels like I just cant be bothered anymore - no one fancies me - my partner and I dont sleep together any more - long story there - start loads of diets and no more drinking resolutions only for them to fall by the wayside within days - dont know how to get me back feel so lost

Hi Lulu.

Ok lets start with the AD's. If you have been on them for 6 months and have not noticed ANY improvement in your mood then you are on the wrong ones for you. There are loads of AD's with many different properties and it is common for people to try two or three before finding one that suits them....So first thing is to make GP appointment and go and discuss the options.

That leads me onto the alcohol...as you may or may not know its a depressant so could well be affecting the AD's. Are you drinking every day? How much are you drinking? If so you start by having a few alcohol free evenings. Start slow and be realistic. Your mood should start to lift a little if you cut back on the alcohol.

Overeating.. How about joining a slimming club on one of your alcohol free evenings? I went to slimming world before I got pregnant and found it to be a real social support and felt like I wasn't the only one struggling.

Sometimes its hard to dig deep and find the motivation...but I think thats what you have to do Lulu. Sit down and think hard about what you want to change and how you want things to be.... then think about the steps you need to take in order to get to that place... Its not going to happen overnight... but small and achievable steps is what it needs.

Do you have friends you can talk to/support you? Do you work?

I've been where you are now.. And its a nightmare I know...cant see the wood for the trees... but you CAN change things... just do it slowly GOOD LUCK!!!!

There has been a big improvement in my mood since starting ADs - think maybe the drink is the problem - it seems at the moment I'm an either all or nothign person ie. cant just have 1 or 2 glasses have to finish a whole bottle quite often to myself. I do work full time but cant get out at night as partner is quite often not at home so need to look after the kids. I am thinking of rejoining WW - I know there is magic cure for what I'm going through just want there to be I suppose I look at myself in the mirror and dont recognise the old fat bloated looking woman I have become !! Thank you for your encouragement though

Sorry shoudl have read "I know there is no magic cure............."!!

Well I think you should go and join WW this week! I always feel really motivated once ive been to a slimming world meeting (doesn't last though!!!)

I'm currently 20weeks pregnant and look like a small mountain but I am promising myself that I will return to SW as soon after the birth as I can.. I am comfy as a 14-16 but am verging on a size 20-22 at the moment and I hate it. Ive lost weight in the past many times and it always makes me feel good once I get going.

If you feel that alcohol is an issue...please try to cut back...like I said build up some alcohol free nights... spend the money on cosmetics or new underwear or a CD...anything as long as its for you!!! Be nice to yourself and you will slowly start to feel a little better about yourself.

Thank you Mmelody I am going to try really hard next week to cut out the booze cut back on the rubbish and get back to some exercise and think I will rejoin WW perhaps some like minded people is what I need. Thanks for replying to my posts I often post but dont always get replies x

Hi you sound a bit like me:Basically I have a brilliant H a delightful 2year old and a nice home. However I feel completely down or I did a few weeks ago. I went to the GP who gave me some Prozac. My H thinks they are working as my mood is lighter BUT I?m not sure if I was depressed in the first place or just in a fed up mood for a while.

I have had a rough time since I got pregnant and had a missed miscarriage before that after tying for three years. I had hyperemisis all the way through (and Was hospitalised) and was forced to leave my job. Also during the pregnancy I suffered acute pancretitis and nearly died.

The birth that was supposed to be an at home water birth ended up as an emergency caesarean after I was 3 weeks over due. Then my daughter was born with the cord wrapped around her neck.

Since then I have had my gall bladder removed, problems with my caesarean scar and celulitis in my arm and hand and am currently not able top eat much or yawn as my Jaw has seized due to stress.

My one Vice has always been drinking wine every night (for the past 10 years). But I am too ashamed to tell the doctor this. But am secretly worrying that it has given me these health issues although the doctor tells me I have just been extremely unlucky.

I feel like I have woken up one morning looked at my life and thought my god why me and since then I feel like my way of doing things my daily routines etc are boring and or wrong i.e. not what other people do.

Has any one been through anything similar situation? My Husband works shifts, I have always been a loner so no real friends, I don't drive either so feel really stuck.

Since this post about a week ago i have continued ADs and have had about 5 days without any alchol.it is hard when all you want to do is sleep.How long have you been drinking like this .How do you think it effects you during the day?

I dont feel too bad during the days a bit fuzzy headed or tired but nothing to deter me from drinking again the next night!! I know all the stuff to do to make me feel better but just have no real interest in looking better as no one cares!!