SIL has BPD. Things have been so up and down and I have struggled with how she treats my brother. I will try and keep this succinct but the issues have been building for a number of years. There has been some massive downs but at the moment she seems much happier in herself. However, they were both called into the school recently and they are very concerned about the oldest daughter. The school counsellor has been speaking to her and she has told them a number of very concerning things and they are very worried about both children-verging on neglect.
My brother works away for most of weeks and it seems my SIL takes herself off to bed when she gets back from work. The DC then stay up till all hours. They don't have any dinner made for them. My SIL picks them up some doughnuts from the shop for breakfast. On another note - the house is filthy,I mean properly dirty. We have been round to clean and cook but they don't maintain it. There are never sheets on the bed, dirty toilets, food everywhere etc etc.
BPD is so complicated. Before we thought that kids doing ok, however they have an assessment since the school talk and the dr's are also concerned about their MH. To try and keep things short, my brother has been advised to remove the children from their mother asap. I'm so totally worried about it all. I feel we should have done more before but things had seemed a little better. My SIL when to a private clinic some time ago and this had helped. I believe my brother thought he was doing the right thing but sticking by her but now it is directly affecting the DDs....
Does anyone have any advice?