counsellor says it all my parent's fault ..........

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that i feel the way i do. i carry so much guilt, i failed at brestfeeding, had 2 sections, feel i love dd more than ds. i always see or think the worst. what can i do about this i want to feel like my happy self again???

My goodness that is a sweeping statement to make - surely counselling is not about blame but about finding a way forward?

yes, as trainee counsellor i would be shocked if your counsellor said that tron. if they di - find new counsellor! i could go on about conditions of worth etc but am only half baked so far!

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maybe what they were getting at was that your parents do help shape your image of yourself, but really counselling should be about recognising what the true picture of yourself is. And not breastfeeding is not failure, you tried, it didnt work out, thats fine and in the past. i think persisting with counselling is a good thing, take that statement with you ' counsellor says its all parents fault' and talk about it. hth told you im only part trained not allowed to work on real human people yet.....

thanks moopymoo - i'm seeing counsellor again this week - i just don't know what to expect or how to change the way i feel/think