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Needakickupthebehind · 14/02/2007 11:33

I'm not really depressed so feel a bit guilty being on this topic but I do get bouts of feeling really down (I usually bounce back)for a day ot two. Last night I was feeling really low/guilty about DS whose 9mths starting nursery in a few weeks. He's only going 3 days a week so that I can go back to work. I'm very lucky that I've been able to have extra time off with him on mat.leave and if we tightened our belt we could just scrape by without me going back to work but I found being at home with DS very tough and I need - I think - the stimulation of work. I also have personal reasons that having being an only child my mother gave up work to look after me (things were very different for her 30 odd years ago)I felt somewhere along the line she wasn't quite fulfilled and lacked stimulation. I don't always love my job but its a reasonable one and I work with a good bunch of people and I feel (sometimes!) that its worthwhile (important to me). I feel really bad about DS going to nursery especially as we could just manage but I'm not sure I'm cut out to be a SAHM (all credit to them) and would get down and frustrated. I know I'm very lucky as I have a lovely child a great dp and am ok domestivally ifykwim so really I just need a kick up the backside its just that every so often I feel cr*p about it all. Feel better for putting it down in writing - thanks

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secretundercover · 14/02/2007 13:26

i would have given anything to have been able to stayed home with my children. they grow up so fast and before you know it they are off to school. surely you must have thought about this before you had. i am not keen on nurseries, they dont get the care that they need at that age, have you thought about a childminder, they are cheaper and you may only need to work 2 days aweek then.

bigcar · 14/02/2007 13:42

Dont feel bad, ds will probably love nursery, make loads of new friends and have lots of fun, its normally only us mums that feel guilty for leaving them! My dd1 usually didnt want to come home. Sorry, im sahm now as have 4dc! Look on the brightside my ex boss wouldnt even consider part time work when i had dd2. If its not just for the money, see how it goes, you could always change your mind. Im sure your mum thinks looking after you was the best thing she ever did, may be you should talk to her, it might help. Big hugs to ya!

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